Pain Inserting & Removing
So I recently bought a DivaCup (size 1 because I’m 18 and have pretty heavy flow) for the first time and I’ve started using it a day ago. But now I’m literally too scared of using it again because of the pain.
I find it pretty painful to put in, especially when it comes to my vagina hole (it feels like the Diva Cup is too big and is tearing at my hole even if I fold it in 4). I also feel like putting my fingers in there hurts pretty bad even though I do it in the shower so I’m kinda lubbed up with the water (and I cut my nails).
When I take it out, my fingers are literally in pain and shaking because my walls are squeezing the cup so hard and even though I’ve squeezed the base (not the stem mind you), last time I did it it just felt like I was pulling my cervix out and it was the grossest feeling ever. Like I never want to feel that again (it wasn’t painful, it was just a lotta pressure). Also, just trying to insert my fingers inside while the cup is in there is painful (like I’m ripping/scratching my walls).
So I’m wondering if it’s normal for it to feel this way? Maybe I’m not doing it correctly or maybe the cup is too big? Thx for the answers!
It is never normal to feel pain while using a menstrual cup – ANY menstrual cup. There should be no pain during any process of using it. A little pressure while inserting, positioning, or removing it, but never pain.
With what you’re describing, it sounds as though you might need a narrower or softer cup.
The Diva Cup has one more size – model 0, which has been dubbed the ‘teen’ size. Since it’s narrower, it might allow you to maneuver the cup easier without the added pressure.
You can also try a cup that’s a little softer. This may make it easier to manipulate since the body will cave in with the pressure of a single finger.
If the Diva Cup’s diameter and length were comfortable while it was inserted, the small Casco Cup (not mini) is a similar option but slightly softer. People who find the Diva Cup too firm, have found relief in the Casco Cup.
Using a drop of water-based personal lubricant can make a huge difference. I know that you mentioned that you are ‘kinda lubed up with water’ but it’s very different.
As for removing any cup, make sure that you are breaking the seal that it has created before tugging down on it. If it is still sealed, the cup could create suction when it’s pulled. This can cause extra pressure, pain, and even cramping. Insert a single finger and collapse the side of the cup a bit before nudging or rocking it down enough to reach the stem or base for a better grip.
How to Insert & Remove a Menstrual Cup
Lastly, I know that it’s easy to say and hard to do, but you have to relax your muscles so they are not clinching onto the cup. Squat down in the shower/tub to bring the cup closer to the vaginal opening so that you can reach it easier. Do a series of Kegels to bring it down even further.
If you would like some other cup suggestions, check out the Cup Quiz and see what comes up. I’d be happy to give you my thoughts on them if you’d like.
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