I got the Duchess Cup a few months ago and used it for the first time last month. Before that I had done several dry runs while standing and could never get my cup open. It was really frustrating and got to a point where I was hurting myself. Then when I got my period I tried putting it in while sitting and it was so much easier. Even though it would take about 30min I could get it open a couple of times.
What normally happens is I put it in and leave the bottom part out and let it open up then push it in. The problem is it stays a little flat on one side. I can turn it completely and move it from side to side but it stills stays a little flat which when I stand up eventually flattens up completely and causes leakage. I’ve tried every tip I could find. My cervix is very high so I can’t really feel it. Also, when I try letting it open before pushing it in sometimes it hurts while I’m pushing it in. Whenever I try putting in completely and then letting it open it doesn’t, it stays completely flat.
I really need some help because I get really frustrated and end up trying and trying to no avail and I end up getting really sore and sometimes even bleed.
My suggest would be to try it while you’re squatting down. You can also bear down with your muscles (like you’re going to poop) while squatting. Doing one or both of these will bring your cervix down closer to the opening of your vagina.
The Dutchess Cup is a softer cup (IMO) and it might be a reason that it’s giving you a hard time when trying to open it.
I’m not sure which fold you’re using, but you could try the Origami Fold which allows you to nudge the rim open. Here’s a video of that fold:
Personally, I’ve had to figure out how to make softer cups work for me. Maybe my method will work for you too. Here’s a video on that:
You might find some other useful info or tips & tricks in this video:
If you’re still having troubles, I suggest trying a cup that’s more firm than the Dutchess.
If you like the size and shape of the Dutchess but want a cup that’s more firm, I suggest looking into these cups:
EvaCup, LaliCup, Lunette, Juju
Good Luck! <3