Help with my cup
I was hoping I could get some help – I bought the saalt regular soft cup recently and I don’t know if it’s me or I got the wrong size but I can’t seem to get it in. I know this is quite embarrassing but I don’t exactly know where stuff is up there so maybe I’m using it wrong. I’ve tried a few times but no luck I know it’s supposed to fully go in and you can only see the stem. But when I try you can actually see the cup and it keeps falling out and feeling uncomfortable. I’m not used to putting anything up there as I only ever use pads and never tampons. I got the regular as I have very heavy periods so I thought that be the right one. I did really want this to work as I use a lot of pads and I wanted to help the environment as well as making it more better for me. If anyone could help me that be great. I thought I’d see if I’m doing anything wrong before spending more money on a new cup.
Don’t be embarrassed, anatomy (at least in high school) doesn’t really go into detail about these things and we normally don’t have to know where everything single thing is located. So it’s understandable not knowing even if you’re 65 years old!
The first thing to know is that the cervix isn’t typically located straight up. It’s more down and back towards your tailbone.
When inserting your cup, try squatting on the ground. It will roll your pelvis forward giving you an easier reach, as well as push your cervix down closer to the vaginal opening.
Fold the cup and insert it toward slightly down and back towards your tailbone.
If you insert the cup straight up, it will likely push your cervix to the side and won’t collect any menstrual flow.
As long a the body of the cup is inserted passed the pelvic floor muscle (aka PFM – the muscle you can feel squeeze when you stop your pee or push out poop), the cup should good. If the stem can be seen or felt outside of the body, then you can trim it bit by bit until it’s comfortable but where you can still reach it to remove the cup.
Using a menstrual cup for the first time, or the first few times might feel strange. A lot of new users are aware that there’s “something” there but unless it’s uncomfortable or causing pain, the feeling (or awareness) should go away.
Here’s a page with a video that might help you get the cup properly inserted and positioned:
How to Insert & Remove a Menstrual Cup
If the cup still feels too long after a few tries, you may have a low cervix. If that’s the case, a shorter cup might feel more comfortable.
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Thank you for your reply – I’ve tried it all but it’s still not going in properly. I’ve gotten the smaller one as I think I have a low cervix and it’s still not sitting right. Each time I put it in it falls out like it’s not secured. I think I’m not inserting it right. Is it normal for it not to go in this many times? I feel like I’m never going to get it right.
@Naina – First of all, I want to commend you for not giving up just yet. It’s normal for new users who have never had experience with inserting an internal menstrual product before, to have a learning curve. You’re not the only one, so don’t beat yourself up. It can take some practice to get used to it. Once you get it, it will become quicker and easier to insert, position, and remove.
You might want to explore a little while you’re in the shower. Some water-based lube will help things glide (finger and/or cup). Insert your middle finger and feel for your cervix.
If you do have a low cervix, you might need an even shorter cup or one that flares at the rim (which tends to move up and sit higher around the cervix). You may also want to look into a menstrual disc.
However, if the cup is not being inserted past the pelvic floor (which may be the cause of it hanging or falling out) and you find out that you have a high cervix. If you use a shorter/smaller cup, you might find it moved out of reach over the course of the day. That can be scary, so I would rather you try to locate and measure your cervix first, for peace of mind.
It doesn’t sound like the cup is being placed past the pelvic floor.
However, cups are not one size fits all. Although the Saalt is a great cup, it just might not be the cup for you.
If you would like some suggestions for bell-shaped cups with a flared rim or menstrual disc, let me know and I’ll see what I can come up with.
Until then, good luck <3
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