Stems help you reach the cup, but you don’t want to use the stem to “pull the cup out”.
First of all, if your cup has created a seal/suction, you’ll need to break it. You can do this by pinching the base of the cup, collapsing the side of it, or pulling back or down on the rim.
If there is a seal/suction and you tug on the cup, you can also tug on your cervix which may cause discomfort, pain and even some cramping.
You’ll only want to use the stem to be able to reach the base of the cup. The stem itself will not support the weight of the cup when you remove it from your body, especially if it contains fluid.
Yes. Stems on menstrual cups play a huge role in easing the removal of a menstrual cup. The different types serve different purposes for users, but they are all there as a feature of the cup that is easy to grip and pull the cup out with. Users of the menstrual cup have varying preferences of which stem they think is best, because it is all about opinion and differential circumstances that make each stem type good or bad for a person.
The stems helps in some ways but they are usually a bit soft or stretchy. They are not really there for being pulled on and I wouldn’t recommend it.
first because pulling the stem doesn’t cancel the light suction that happens when a cup is in place, pinching the bottom of the cup does cancel the seal to make it much easier to remove
Pulling on the stem will make it harder, possibly uncomfortable, the stem might strech, possibly snap if you over do it and if the cup suddenly comes out you’ll spill its content.
The stem helps you locate the bottom of the cup with your finger and pulling lightly on it to grab the bottom of the cup, pinch it betwen your thumb and index and gently pull the cup out.
if you feel the stem is too long you can cut it (making sure you don’t pierce the bottom obviously). There are many cups that have no stems or just tiny balls.
Each to their own to use whatever makes them feel comfortable.
Have a look at my FAQ if you want more answers about menstrual cups.