Can I wear a menstrual cup while having sex?
If you are looking for a menstrual cup that is specifically designed to be used while having penetrative sex, you can check out one of the below:
SoftCup (Which is now part of the Flex Company)
FlexFits
Lumma Unique
Ziggy Cup
However….
I have actually contacted several menstrual cup companies to ask for their exact reason why we can’t have penetrative sex while using a menstrual cup.
I was very surprised that a few of them asked me HOW it was possible or tell me that it’s IMPOSSIBLE???
A couple asked me to elaborate, and a few more said that they don’t have any problems with people having penetrative sex while their menstrual cup was inserted.
***Please remember that a menstrual cup will NOT prevent pregnancy or protect you from STDS***
The vagina can expand by 200 percent when sexually aroused. Remember that the vagina was made to give birth to a small human. Even if your lovers member is the “size of a baby’s arm” it’s still doesn’t equal the WHOLE baby.
If you and your partner are comfortable with having penetrative sex while using a cup, then there should be no reason that you shouldn’t at least try it. If you or your partner should experience any pain or discomfort while having sex with the cup inserted, you need to communicate that. Maybe it’s not the right cup for it or maybe not the right position. Like anything else, COMMUNICATION is the key.
For your first try, your partner will want to be gentle during the first insertion. It’s a new experience for both of you so neither of you know where things are going to fit.
I have found that no matter how soft or firm the cup is, my husband and I are able to enjoy this time.
However, for a “first timer” a softer cup might be easier to manipulate. A softer cup will collapse to the penis as it will when your finger is against it while inserting or removing your cup.
Start off slow at first. Get to know the feeling, test to see if there’s pain for either of you. Let your partner move around and see if there’s another area that feels more comfortable. Maybe it feels better with the cup above or below or even to the side of his penis. If your partner is anything like my husband, it won’t matter where the cup is positioned, he’s just happy to be inside! ?
Once you both are comfortable, you can gain some speed and momentum. People always ask, “Won’t the cup stem stab him in the ‘pee’ hole??” Hmmmm, well…..
- You can trim the stem if you are able to remove your cup with out it.
- Not all men withdraw completely. If your partner doesn’t, then he will likely keep the stem pressed off to the side.
- The stem is usually soft enough, even on a firm cup, to get pushed to the side.
- If the stem is long then it has more area to bend when it’s “poked”.
- If he gets “stabbed” it lasts for 1 sec and it’s over. Remind him how many times he’s “stabbing” you! ?
- Do an experiment…get a candy with a hole in the center, like a Life Saver. Then get a menstrual cup with a stem. Have your partner try to get the stem of the cup into the hole of the Life Saver while you hold it. Make sure both of you are advancing toward each other like you would be thrusting during sex. How many times did the stem go in the hole of the Life Saver?
- “Life Saver Test”
Again, COMMUNICATION IS KEY!
A couple of tips for success:
- Empty your cup prior to having penetrative sex. This will eliminate leaks.
- Make sure you have a good seal on your cup, also to eliminate leaks.
- Wait a couple of hours or even the next morning to remove your cup.
- Because your vagina expands and your cervix normally moves higher when aroused, your cup might be harder to reach. Allow your body and vagina to return to it’s normal state for an easier removal. If you had emptied your cup prior to having sex, you should be all set until the morning anyhow.
- If you have more than one cup, experiment with them. You might find that you and/or your partner enjoy one cup over another. Some allow for more sensations, others dull it.
I personally have one cup that I don’t typically wear for my period but I do like to use it while we’re having sex. It is a small, firm, bell shaped cup (LENA) that applies pressure on certain areas of my vagina that I find adds extra enjoyment ?
You never know if it’ll work for you unless you try it. If it’s not something you feel comfortable with, then that’s totally fine too! There are so many other ways to enjoy each other while your cup is insert. Penetrative sex doesn’t have to be one of them ?
