Urine does not come from the same “hole”. Unless you have a medical condition that your urethra is connected to the uterus, there is no way that your cup is filling with urine while it’s inserted. The cup sits around or right under the cervix. It collects what comes out of the uterus through the cervix. Urine is held in the bladder and is not collected in this same cavity.
However, as I stated previously, your vagina cleans itself by way of mucus and discharge. They can be white, yellow, brown, green…all meaning different things, and have different odors.
If it is in FACT urine, I would suggest contacting a doctor for treatment as unwanted bacteria may harbor and cause infections.
I’m so glad that you included this! I didn’t know how deep to go into “sex” as I know that everyone has different definitions about it. It’s a touchy subject for some – as is the topic and definition for “virgin”. It’s great to be able to read/see another side other than “penetrative – penis/vagina” sex.
Thank you so much for taking the time to leave some great info! Happy New Year!
Stems help you reach the cup, but you don’t want to use the stem to “pull the cup out”. First of all, if your cup has created a seal/suction, you’ll need to break it. You can do this by pinching the base of the cup, collapsing the side of it, or pulling back or down on the rim. If there is a seal/suction and you tug on the cup, you can also tug on your cervix which may cause discomfort, pain and even some cramping. You’ll only want to use the stem to be able to reach the base of the cup. The stem itself will not support the weight of the cup when you remove it from your body, especially if it contains fluid.
Hi Cara! Here are some things to think about when hunting for a new cup: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uONPxEIQ_yo It might help you narrow down your search. There are so many cups on the market and if I just suggest cups that I like, it would be based on my experience and may not be what you want in a cup for YOUR needs. If you still need some suggestions after you watch the video, I’d be happy to help as long as you can answer some of the “guidelines” mentioned in it.
Done! 😀 I’ll post this on my page as well. Good luck with your survey!
I know this is old, but femininewear.co.uk now carries these cups! If you can’t find a discount code for it, you can use code: RedHerringTV for 10% off your total order 🙂 Happy Shopping!
I would wait for these to clear up before using a cup. I would also definitely ask your doctor for clearance before using a cup for these and your other (posted) health concerns.
For safety and health reasons, I would definitely ask a physician before using a menstrual cup. Out of curiosity, has your doctor allowed you to use tampons or any other type of item that is to be inserted into the vagina?
Hi Melissa! My periods used to be really terrible, too. Now I don’t dread them as much. I used to have very heavy clotting and would soak my tampon, doubled with a pad and straight through to my clothing within an hour or so. Sometimes even sooner 🙁 I honestly thought that a cup wasn’t going to last me any extra time but in my case, I was wrong. Even on my most heaviest days, I could get about four to six hours out of the large Super Jennie. That was including clotting. I’m not saying that it will be that long for you, but even an extra hour to be “free” for me compared to how it used to be with tampons and pads, was a blessing! You’ll probably want to look into a higher capacity cup like the Super Jennie large, LaliCup large, LuvUrBody large or Yuuki large. If you have a low cervix, a Super Jennie and LaliCup would be a better fit. Let me know if there’s anything else I might be able to help you with 🙂
I was quite turned off by the plastic smell of the cups when I first opened the box. I hadn’t even reached the actual cup/s yet, but I could smell them. When I reached the cup and touch them to remove them from the holder, there was an oily residue coating each of them. I washed both of the cups several times, using dental sticks for the stem and the air holes. The oily residue washed away from the surface of the cups, but I can’t be sure the air holes and the hallow stem were residue free.
The smell however, was a different story. I washed both of the cups five times each before I broke down and gave them a try. Even AFTER I used them for my period and washed them a couple more times during and after that, the cups STILL smell like plastic (Barbie Doll Hair came to mind).
I tried to contact the IrisCup company through the website and on FB a couple times each and never got a reply.
When I stretched the silicone, it turned an opaque white. After doing some research, I found that this normally is an indicator that fillers have been added to silicone. Further research advises against boiling items will fillers because they can leach those fillers into water, food, and body. So I didn’t boil these cups like I would with other menstrual cups before my first use.
One of my friends said it best, “Think of it like costume jewelry. In time, it will tarnish and turn your finger green.” In this case, I am scared to insert this cup and turn my vagina green! o.O I used it to test it and do a video for it, but will NOT use this cup any further.
Worried about all of these red flags, I checked with the FDA registration that the IrisCup box claims and found that their registration is not for a menstrual cup but for PAD, MENSTRUAL, UNSCENTED. So while they have an FDA registration, it is NOT for a menstrual cup.
All that aside, here is the walk through of the cup itself.
STEM: -Hollow – Stick style. -Has good movement in all directions. -Very stretchy. -Four ROUNDED grip rings that disappear when stem is pulled taut.
SEAL: -Very minimal. Suggest leaving at least ONE grip ring intact so that you do not puncture into the bowl of the cup.
BODY: -Wide bell shape, similar to the LadyCup
AIR HOLES: -Six air holes in a zig zag, up and down pattern. -Large size. -Punched diagonally with the highest point from inside of the cup to the lowest on the outside. -Some extra silicone still intact -Pitting above most of the holes.
RIM: -Wide and gummy much like the Super Jennie -“Invisible” secondary rim starting at the two grip rings at mid cup. Silicone gets thicker in this area to help the cup open easier.
SEAM: -One seam to speak of located on the outside of the rim. -Small lip on it that can be slightly felt with my finger tip. -Not finished off nicely. There’s some jagged edges.
INNER MARKINGS: -NONE
SILICONE: -Frosted and opaque. -Slippery when dry, even more slippery when wet. -Bowl of cup is very soft. The secondary rim area feels about a 50 shore rating. -(My size small cup arrived egg shaped and has not changed over the weeks that I’ve had it.)
POUCH: -Standard cotton? pouch. Actually nicely made and branded.
OVERALL: I was more impressed with the make of the pouch than I was with the cups. It makes me leery of using these cups after the info I found on the FDA and then with the indication that there may be harmful fillers in the silicone. The smell and the oily residue on the cups turn me off to these from the beginning. However if you can put all these aside, then this cup still works as a menstrual cup. It collects blood the same as any other. The holes being in the up/down zig zag pattern really takes away from the capacity of them. The holes are large enough that they may cause leaking sooner than you’d expect. The silicone is very soft. It might be too soft for a lot of people to even find this cup usable. It makes it hard to open, but it’s not impossible.
Congrats on trying out menstrual cups! There is a learning curve to using them, so don’t be discouraged. We all were new once and had to work out how to use them and which cup worked and felt comfortable for us.
First, it’s common that new users insert a cup straight up. Our cervix isn’t usually positioned there. Instead, the cup should be aimed down and back towards your tailbone. While learning to insert the cup, it might be easier to get this position by squatting on the ground. Inserting the cup straight up may push your cervix to the side or block your cup from opening completely. Both of which will not allow the cup to collect your flow as intended.
To ensure that your cervix is right above or sitting inside of the cup, wiggle the cup down a bit to let your cervix readjust. Then, run a finger around the cup after it’s inserted to feel if the rim is open and that your cervix isn’t on the outside of the cup.
If you have a smaller or shorter cup design your cervix can be sitting inside of the cup taking up some of the capacity space making you leak sooner than you expect.
Some people experience leaking with a very soft cup.
The links below might also be of some help for your situation:
How to Insert & Remove a Menstrual Cup + Tips: https://menstrualcupreviews.net/how-to-use-a-menstrual-cup/#Insert_and_remove
Creating a Good Seal: https://menstrualcupreviews.net/how-to-use-a-menstrual-cup/#Good_Seal
I’m sorry that I can’t pinpoint exactly what’s going on for you, but I hope that this makes sense and you’ll be able to get your cup placed and working as intended. If you still have some issues with your cup, please let me know which cup it is so I might have a better understanding of what may be the problem.
I’m sorry to hear that most of your experience with a menstrual cup has been negative. I’m surprised but very happy that you’re back to try again. It sounds like you’re determined to find something that works for you, and I hope that I can help.
The first thing that jumped out to me while reading your comment was, “it kept rising up”. After I finished reading the comment in its entirety, I would have to agree that you likely have a high cervix. Most small sized cups are shorter than their counterpart with the exception of a few cups, like the Diva Cup or the Casco Cup in which both the small and large are the same length but have different diameters.
“Bell” vs. “V”
Bell Shaped: The Fleur small is already short. Bell-shaped cups normally have a rounded base which shortens the cup even more. And rims that flare out like the Fleur, tend to ride up and sit higher in the vaginal fornix around the cervix. This can make it difficult to reach for those with a high cervix.
V-Shaped: V-shaped cups usually have more length to them. However, the smaller/shorter V-shaped cups can still cause issues for those with a high cervix.
Lastly, cups will migrate into the area with the least resistance. Most times it’s up, but sometimes it’s out like when someone has a very weak pelvic floor. So even if you insert and position a cup low, our muscles will contract and move our cup one way or the other.
I know, this is probably more than what you really wanted to hear about, but you’ll have something to think about when you’re shopping for another cup.
I would suggest either a “V”-shaped cup, a longer cup overall, or one with a longer, but soft stem.
Fleur Cup small for reference: Total Length – 70mm w/o Stem – 47mm Diameter – 41mm Capacity to the rim – 25ml
Lunette large for reference: Total Length – 72mm w/o Stem – 54mm Diameter – 45mm Capacity to the rim – 30mm ______________
You didn’t mention anything about the firmness of the Lunette so I’m guessing that you didn’t have any sensitivities issues.
UltuCup small or large (not mini) – Total Length – 70mm w/o Stem – 56mm Diameter – 42mm/44mm Capacity to the rim – 30ml/40ml The small and large are the same length. The difference is in the diameter and capacity. These cups are on the firmer side of medium. They have an elongated body and a short stem.
LaliCup large – Total Length – 73mm w/o Stem – 55mm Diameter – 46mm Capacity to the rim – 40ml The LaliCup has the body of a “bell” but has a regular rim and the base tapers to a short point. This cup has unique channels on its body that help the cup to fold up easier and smaller as well as helps the cup to open after the fold is released. This cup has a soft, pliable stem.
Venus Cup large – Total Length – 71mm w/o Stem – 56mm Diameter – 47mm Capacity to the rim – 47mm This cup is new to the market. There’s not a lot of reviews on it yet, but I actually got to test it before production. It’s a good medium firm cup that’s high capacity. It has a decent length but isn’t extremely long and has a round base so no “pokey” feeling. This cup has a soft, pliable stem.
Yuuki “Soft” large – Total Length – 75mm w/o Stem – 56mm Diameter – 47mm Capacity to the rim – 38ml Although it’s labeled as their “soft” cup, they actually have one other version that’s slightly softer. This cup is more of a medium firmness compared to other cups on the market. This cup has a hollow stem that moves easily but isn’t very comfortable hanging outside of the body. It will likely need to be trimmed if it protrudes too much.
Check out these cups and see if any of them interests you. If you need more info about one or all of these cups, please feel free to reply. Until then, good luck and happy browsing!
Since you said that your cup didn’t feel uncomfortable before, I’m guessing that the position of your cervix has just changed, as it does all through the menstrual, and the cup is sitting differently than before.
You can try trimming the stem down even more if you didn’t already cut it completely off.
You can also try turning the cup inside out and seeing if it feels more comfortable for you. This shortens the cup a bit and gets rid of the stem without cutting it completely off (if you still have some intact). It’s safe to use this way IF you can still reach your cup to remove it.
I’m sorry to hear that your experience with menstrual cups has not been a happy one so far 🙁 That makes me sad. Hopefully, I can shed some light on some things you can think about and try.
First of all, for someone with a high cervix, of course, you’ll want some length to a cup. Whether it comes from the body of the cup or the stem. Being able to reach the base of the cup and not just the stem, can make all the difference if a cup creates a strong seal/suction for someone. Not everyone will have the same experience with a cup (and the suction) so I can’t tell you if you should definitely seek cups with a long body or just a long stem. Either way, both will be easier to reach if the cup sits high and you’re going on a treasure hunt every time you need to empty your cup. Being able to reach the base will allow you to release the suction sooner (if the cup creates a strong one). Length from the stem will allow you to reach it and wiggle the cup down until you can reach the base but if the cup creates a strong suction, one might find it uncomfortable or even painful if it tugs down on the cervix. The OrganiCup, while a great cup, doesn’t have that length to it. It’s on the shorter side of an ‘average’ large size cup.
Second, a cup doesn’t need to be pushed up really high. In fact, this is the cause of the issue in some cases. If someone folds, inserts, and places the cup high before allowing it to open, it could be placed past the cervix into the vaginal fornix. Either the cup can’t completely unfold or it pushes the cervix to the side. You can try inserting the cup halfway, allow it to open and then use a finger to maneuver it higher if needed.
In many cases, people that claim to have a tipped/tilted, retroverted/retroflexed, prolapsed uterus and/or cervix, have said that they have better luck with a cup with a wider diameter. It takes some of the guesswork out of targeting their cervix. Some of these cups can sit lower and still be comfortable.
I know that the initial cost of cups can be expensive, but once you find one that works for you and is comfortable, you won’t have to look anymore. There are some menstrual cup groups on Facebook that allow ‘destashing’ or reselling of gently used, still in good condition, cups whether they have a stem or not. You might try posting your unwanted cups in a few of those to recoup money to spend on another cup to try. Facebook search ‘menstrual cup b/s/t’ to get started. Even if you don’t feel comfortable using a used cup for yourself, there are people willing to purchase one for a small discount. If you feel confident in your cleaning methods to use a used cup, you might find one that interests you for a lesser cost. The option is yours.
A couple of cups that I suggest checking out are the Merula XL and the Yuuki large in the ‘soft’ version.
Merula XL – The body of this cup is shorter than the OraganiCup, but including the stem, it is a couple of mm longer. It also has a wider diameter and a rounded body and base. Even if it sits low, the rounded base may be more comfortable while wearing.
Yuuki ‘Soft’ large – The body of this cup is longer than the OrganiCup and the stem makes it even longer still. The diameter of this cup is wider by a few mm.
Even though a couple to a few mm doesn’t seem like much, it can make a big difference in using and comfort while wearing.
I hope that you’ll try using a cup again. I know it can be frustrating at first, but it will get easier once you find the right cup for you. Good luck and please let me know if you have any further questions.
Cancel my previous suggestions as I thought you might be from New Zealand from one of the cups that you named.
The Diva Cups are all the same size – 56 mm without the stem. Except for a handful, almost any other small size cup in another brand is going to be shorter than that.
Saalt small is 45 mm without the stem, and the large is 52 mm without the stem. Even the larger Saalt Cup is shorter than an average large size cup. Both might be comfortable for you to wear. With the stems intact they are 70 mm in length and they can be trimmed easily if you still feel the same irritation.
Since you have a light flow the capacity might be fine with the small Saalt, but I worry that it will ride up and sit higher around your cervix. This might allow the cervix to sit deeper inside of the cup and compromise the 25 ml capacity.
If it’s feasible, I would suggest picking up their two pack – small & large just in case this happens.
I would start with checking the height of your cervix. If you don’t know how to, you can visit page: https://menstrualcupreviews.net/how-to-choose-a-menstrual-cup/#Cervical_Height That will narrow some cups down that might be more comfortable for you.
If you have a low cervix, these might work well for you: Lena Cup small, Sckoon, SochCup small, Super Jennie small, StoneSoup Wings Cup, Nari-Yari, LaliCup medium or small, or the Juju Model 1.
If you have a high cervix, I would check into the Diva Cup, Juju model 2, MeLuna large or XL, Lunette, Silky Cup, SheCup, Rustic Art, LaliCup medium or large, Boondh, SochCup large or the V Cup.
I have a few friends in India (SochGreen and Hygiene and You) that have workshops about reusable menstrual products and carry or offer these cups. Some of the cups are only sold in Inida 🙂
Just because a cup is more expensive, doesn’t mean it’s better quality. Read reviews about the specific cup that you’re interested in to see what others say about it.
As for choosing silicone or another material, it depends on if you have any allergies. You might also choose a material based on how well it opens or keeps it’s shape. A majority of the cups out there are made of silicone. Silicone seems to have a better ‘spring’ than TPE (MeLuna cups are TPE) and may make them easier to open. Most silicone will also keep it’s circlular shape while the rim of TPE cups tend to stay oval. If you have rubber allergies, avoid the Keeper Cup. The rest shouldn’t give you any problems.
Hi Jess! Thank you SO much for sharing your experience! I get asked all the time if ‘virgins’ can use a menstrual cup. I’m glad to hear that you were successful even if you had to work at it. I hope that you have many years of happy periods!! <3 Great share!
Did you see the new Venus Cup? The size small might be something to look into 🙂
How about the Korui or the Menstro?
The Korui is a nice cup. Even the largest size (51mm without the stem) is shorter than most other size large cups out there. There’s a medium (49mm without the stem) if that’s a tad to long. Both the medium and large Korui are more firm than the EvaCup and since the body stays wide and doesn’t taper to a point, this firmness might feel exagerated.
The MenstroCup is about the same length as the EvaCup and is is more firm in both the body and rim.
First, I’m happy to hear that the Diva Cup served you well for at least a couple of years. Second, I’m also happy to hear that you didn’t go too extreme – firmness/shape – when you chose your second cup.
Since the EvaCup felt a little too long, I searched for a cup with a shorter body and that is slightly softer.
Here’s a few cups that might interest you (in no particular order):
Super Jennie – small: This is the shortest cup in this group. Although it is the small size, it still has a decent capacity at 32ml to the rim. The firmness of the rim is just about the same as the EvaCup large, but the diameter is more narrow which should ease the pressure that you’re experiencing.
LaliCup – medium: This cup has a unique channel pattern around the body. These channels help the cup to fold up easier, while also helping the cup to open after the fold is released. I also find that since these channels will collapse individually, it can ease the pressure in sensitive areas while keeping the rest of the cup and rim in place. And while the rim is about the same as on the large EvaCup, again since the diameter is a bit more narrow, it should ease some of that pressure as well. This cup (body) is slightly shorter than the EvaCup and has a rounded base. This cup holds 36ml to the rim.
Lena Cup Sensitive – large: This is a bell-shaped cup with a flared rim. This shape and flared rims tend to make these cups ride up and sit a little higher in the vaginal fornix. I usually suggest these shapes for those with a medium/low cervix, but the larger size adds a little bit of length to them for an easier reach. Most (but not all), flared rims are softer than the body of the cup, and that is the case with the Lena. This cup holds 30ml to the rim providing your cervix doesn’t sit too deeply into the cup.
So, those are my suggestions. Depending on your flow, you might choose one of them based on the capacity that they hold. All of these cups are shorter than the EvaCup large. The Lena would be the closest in length but again, it’s a bell-shape with a flared rim and might sit a bit different compared to the rest of the cups in this group.
Check them out and see if any of them interest you. If you have any additional questions, I’ll do my best to try to answer them for you. Until then, Good Luck & Happy Browsing!
Hi Lillie! I’m so happy to hear that you’re about to buy your first cup! I’m excited for you! I’m also happy to hear that you find this site helpful…although, it’s not mine 🙂
With a cervix that is medium/high, you can get away with using just about any menstrual cups. However, you might find “V” shaped ones a little easier to reach. Even though your period isn’t extremely heavy, you can also use larger sizes for the length. They may allow you to use the cup for the full 12 hours since your periods are on the lighter side. Most cup companies suggest against using their menstrual cup while having penetrative intercourse, but many people have had success using and doing both at the same time. It might not be for everyone, but it’s your choice (try at your own risk). Just go slow and see if it’s something you and your partner are comfortable with it. The only cups that are specifically designed for use during ‘sexy’ times are the DISCs…as you already mentioned the Flex Fits Cup. SoftCup, Ziggy Cup, and Lumma Unique are the others on the market. With Nixit soon to be launched. Flex Fits and SoftCups are one-time use, disposable items. The rest are reusable. I have not had consistent luck with all of them except for one which I only use before bed. I swap out to a ‘regular’ menstrual cup in the morning. As my periods may be heavy at any given time, I don’t feel confident while using them.
Anyhow, below are a few medium firm cups that I think might be comfortable and still easy to reach. I choose cups that were on the narrow side. (In no particular order)
Diva Cup Model 1 – This is their middle size as they have a model 0, 1, and 2. Good thing is, it’s cheaper than the smallest size that they offer 😛 Anyhow, this cup is a bit on the firmer side and should open fairly easier without a lot of coaxing unless you have very toned or hypertonic pelvic floors muscles. It has a decent length and a short stem that can be trimmed if needed.
Casco Cup small – This cup can be found by other names depending on your location. You might want to shop around if more than one ‘brand’ is available in your area to see which one is the most affordable. Freedom Cup, Green Cup of Maine, LinCup, Life Cup, Hesta Cup, Hello Halo, EverCup, Mahina Cup, Wa Cup, are some of the names it can be found under. This cup is very similar in shape to the Diva Cup but is a little longer in the body. The stem is short and can be trimmed if needed. Most of these cups are a tad softer than the Diva Cup and for those who have a sensitive bladder, I often suggest these as an alternative (when they like the shape and size of the Diva Cup but find it too firm).
Monthly Cup normal/regular/medium – This cup is a little shorter than the two above and has a bit wider diameter. The rim is on the meatier side which may help this cup to open easy even though the body is softer. The stem on this cup is short but sturdy and easy to grip and hold. The air holes are on the larger side and seem to make it easier (at least for me) to release any seal/suction that the cup has created.
The cups above are made of medical grade silicone.
Genial Day medium – This cup may be found under different names depending on your location. Masmi Cup and OI Cup are two other names it can be found under. This cup is made of Thermoplastic Elastomer (TPE), which is the same material that MeLuna uses for their cups. It’s said that these cups are supposed to warm up and form to your body. However, some people find it harder to work with when getting the cup to open because they don’t have the same spring as most silicone does. They usually take on an oval shape after use and may not return to a perfect ring.
If I had to choose ONE cup for you, I would say to start with the Monthly Cup. I think it will be the easiest to open, comfortable for a medium cervix, but still, have a long enough length if/when the cervix moves up a bit.
As for the Menstrual Discs, I’m partial to the Ziggy and Unique only because they are reusable and I don’t want to have to keep buying Soft/Flex Cups. I find the ring on the Soft/Flex Cups to be too firm and depending on my cervical position, feels too big to get tucked behind my pubic bone correctly or completely. It also makes a loud crinkling noise that my husband and I can’t get passed. He’s also detected the collection bag on this one. Have you asked your sister if you can have one to try? While the Ziggy is reusable, I can’t always get it situated correctly either. The rim on this one is too soft (I sound like Goldilocks! Too firm! Too soft! 😛 ) and sometimes would fold over when trying to place it. The one that I do like is the Lumma Unique Menstrual Disc. The firmness of the ring is in the middle of the two others. I have the most success with this one and use it almost every night while I have my period.
Okay, so those were my suggestions. I hope that one of them sparks your interest. If you have any additional questions about any or all of these cups, I’ll do my best to shed some light on them. Until then, happy window shopping!
I’m happy to hear that you’ve had a ‘mostly’ good experience with your Diva Cup. I’m sorry that it’s just not your perfect cup, though.
The Diva Cup does have an extra inner seal between the stem and the base. You should be safe trimming it as long as you don’t go further than that. If you place the cup on your finger you’ll be able to see that the seal stops your finger at the 3rd grip ring at the base of the cup.
Haakaa sounded like a Polynesian word (I’m part Hawaiian and we have similar words), are you in New Zealand?
If you are, here are a couple of cups that might interest you that are in that area – if you would rather try another design:
*Diva Cup small for reference – Total Length – 67mm w/o Stem – 56mm Diameter – 43mm Capacity to the Rim – 27ml
MyCup (NZ) – Even the larger size is a bit shorter than the Diva, but the diameter is quite a bit wider. SMALL: Total Length – 62mm w/o Stem – 45mm Diameter – 42mm Capacity to the Rim – 29ml
LARGE: Total Length – 67mm w/o Stem – 51mm Diameter – 46mm Capacity to the Rim – 40ml
Wā Cup (This cup is manufactured in the USA but sold in NZ & Aus) – The small and large of this cup are about the same length as the Diva Cup, but they have a ‘MINI’ version that might be suitable for your light flow. MINI: Total Length – 59mm w/o Stem – 47mm Diameter – 42mm Capacity to the Rim – 26ml
For someone with a medium/low cervix, a bell-shaped cup might be a bit more comfortable because the base of the cup is rounded and doesn’t taper to a point like “V”-shaped cups do.
There are very few brands in which the small and large are the same length – like the Diva Cup. Most companies have a small that’s shorter than the large. A lot of fellow bleeders feel it’s deceiving when choosing a size.
I understand that trying different cups can be pricey. I’m sure there’s a menstrual cup FB group in your area. One or more might allow ‘destashing’ gently used cups. Even if you’re not comfortable buying and using a used cup, there are many who are willing to purchase them. You might be able to recoup some funds back if you have more than one that you don’t need.
I hope that I answered your questions completely. Let me know if there’s another else I can do for you. Until then…have a comfortable period <3 Cheers!
Congrats on deciding to make the switch!…or at least trying it 🙂
With the information that you have provided, I would suggest something on the longer side or more “V”-shaped. Since you have experience with using tampons, I feel that you might be fine with inserting a larger cup (for capacity), as a folded cup will be about the same size as a tampon during insertion (maybe except for the “C” fold).
Here are my suggestions and my thoughts on them (in no particular order):
LuvUr Body (LUB) Medium or Large – The medium LUB is one of the longest (body) cups on the market. If you have a very high cervix, this one might be the easiest to reach. Total Length – 82mm w/o the Stem – 62mm Diameter – 45mm Capacity to the Rim – 43ml
The large LUB isn’t as long, but is still longer than several of the average large cups out there. It has a wider diameter and holds the same capacity. Total Length – 77mm w/o the Stem – 58mm Diameter 48mm Capacity to the Rim – 43ml
The medium LUB feels more firm than the larger size as the diameter isn’t as wide and may be easier to get open. The diameter on the medium LUB is closer to large size cups, while the large is wider than most. ———-
Venus Cup Large – This cup is a medium firmness in the body, but as a slightly firmer invisable secondary rim and upper rim. It also has an inner ring for added firmness to help get this cup to open. It has a pretty good total length and a very nice capacity.
Total Length – 71mm w/o the Stem – 56mm Diameter – 47mm Capacity to the Rim – 47ml ———-
UltuCup Large – This cup has a slightly longer body than several of the large sized cups out there, but it has a short stem. Total Length – 70mm w/o Stem – 56mm Diameter – 44mm Capacity to the Rim – 40ml This cup design can be found under different names. Some of them are on the softer side. If you feel like you have bladder sensitivities, you might prefer the Casco Cup, Hesta Cup, or Freedom Cup instead. ———–
LaliCup Large – This cup is the shortest of the bunch, but has a stem with a decent length. Total Length – 73mm w/o Stem – 55mm Diameter – 46mm Capacity to the Rim – 40ml This cup has a unique channel pattern around the body that helps this cup to fold up smaller and easier, while also helping the cup to open once it’s inserted and the fold is released. ———-
Yuuki Cup Large – “Rainbow” or “Soft” version These large cups are a little longer and wider than many on the market, and they have a decent stem length as well. Total Lenth – 75mm w/o Stem – 56mm Diameter – 47mm Capacity to the Rim – 38ml The “Rainbow” version is a tad softer than the “Soft” version, but not by much. The Yuuki “Soft” is actually their medium firmness and compares as such to other cups on the market – medium/average firmness. ———-
So those are the cups that I think might work for you. Check them out and see if any interest you or if you have any questions about them.
As for using a cup with an IUD, many have had success with both. Next time you go to the doctors, let them know that you plan on (or are using) a menstrual cup. They can trim the strings shorter for you even if you already have a difficult time feeling them. This way, they won’t get in the way when placing the cup. I would normally suggest getting familiar with the length of the strings and checking them periodically, but as you already have a hard time locating them, this is useless. When removing the cup, make sure to break slight seal/suction that the cup creates before tugging down on it. If there’s still a suction, the IUD may become dislodged.
Curiously, when you checked the location of your cervix, was it right before or at the start of your period? This is when it tends to drop to its lowest point. At the middle to the end of our periods, the cervix starts to move back up. At the height of ovulation, the cervix moves up to the highest point. Sometimes so high that it’s either hard to reach or completely out of reach. Double check again, just incase. I would hate for you to get a cup that’s considered the longest on the market only to find that your cervix drops down.
Let me know if you have any additional questions. Good Luck!
:O I’m so sorry that happened! I hope that one of the cups that will be arriving will be easier to work with. I don’t have the Dot Cup on hand (I find it very expensive), but I do have the Bloody Buddy, Lena, and the Yuuki. The one that I feel you might have the easiest time reaching, will be the Yuuki.
The Bloody Buddy (and other cups of the same design) are just a tad shorter than the Blossom (large) but have a longer stem. You’ll still need to reach the base of the cup to release the suction. Hopefully, the stem will help wiggle the cup down enough.
The Lena Cup is a bell-shaped cup WITH a flared rim. For many, this shape, especially those with a flared rim, tend to ride up and sit higher in the vaginal fornix. The rounded base also makes this design seem a little shorter. This can make things a bit difficult for those with a high cervix and the cup may be out of reach.
The Yuuki Cup (large) has a longer length body than the Blossom Cup and has a nice long stem compared to it, as well. Since this cup is a “V”-shape without a flared rim, it won’t ride up as much as a bell-shaped cup would.
The large Venus Cup might be something to look into. The body is on the longer side and might be easier to reach and pinch without reaching in as far.
Good Luck on your trials! Please keep me updated <3 I would love to hear about your experience with each.
The medium Ruby Cup is a shorter cup with a rounded base that might feel more comfortable in length, but the body was more firm than the EvaCup. It still might be fine since it will sit differently and the pressure might be applied to an area that is not as sensitive.
Hi Lena! I’m happy to hear that you have some knowledge about your body as well as that you did some research on what might be a good match for your next cup 🙂 The MoonCup is a fairly narrow cup compared to other cups on the market. Depending on which model you purchased – the older version had airholes quite low on the body, the capacity is pretty low, too. I think the LaliCup might be a great match since it is wider (less target practice with your cervix!) and holds a really good capacity – medium 36ml & large 40ml. I feel that the medium will be a comfortable fit in length, but I’m unsure about the large. How did the MoonCup fit you, lengthwise? Was it easy to reach or did you need to push in a bit to retrieve it? Do you know by any chance how low or high your tilted cervix is? If you did need to push in a bit more, then the large might be fine.
I’m sorry that you’re having some troubles with the Lena Cup. Leaking is never a good thing. I can understand your frustration 🙁
Personally, I only feel those bubbling/gurgling sensations when my cup is almost full (or doesn’t have very much capacity left due to my cervix occupying the space) and I need to empty it. Do you find it’s the same for you?
Are you using the original or the sensitive version? I had some firmness issues with the original large size Lena, but the sensitive version gave me no problems at all.
Before I suggest a couple of cups that might be more comfortable and have the capacity that you’re hoping for, can you tell me if the large Lena sat comfortably as in length? Were you able to reach it easily when it was in position correctly or did it feel too long?
It sounds like the Sileu Tulip Cup might be too firm for you. The flared rim might also be the cause of some of that pressure as well as making it harder to reach.
I would suggest a cup that’s a bit softer and has a regular style of rim instead of a flared one. If you’re using the larger size and you’re having trouble reaching it, I suspect that your cervix is medium/high.
The EvaCup (USA version) might be a good match for you. It has a regular rim so that the cup doesn’t ride up as high (like with a flared rim), but also has a wide band for a secondary rim that gives it a bit of firmness to help it open. The cup is “V”-shaped for length and the body is on the softer side.
Another cup that migh work for you is the Venus Cup (large). It has a softer body that will be easy to pinch to release the suction. The rim is also a ‘regular’ style that will hopefully keep that extra pressure off of your bladder.
If you have some other cups in mind, I’d be happy to give you some of my thoughts about them 🙂
Hi Sarah! I’m sorry to hear that the OI cup isn’t working out perfectly for you 🙁 It does sound like you may have some bladder sensitivities. Other symptoms may include: feeling the need to urinate more frequently, feeling like you don’t empty your bladder when you do urinate, a slow urine stream, or constipation. The OI Cup is made of TPE. Do you prefer TPE over silicone or have silicone allergies that I should know about before sending some suggestions? Besides the extra pressure, is the OI Cup comfortable in size, length, and shape?
Wow! That IS strange! Can I ask which cup you were using?
Hello! I know this comment is old, but just incase you’re still trying to figure your cup out… You can trim the stem bit by bit until it feels comfortable. If you can feel the base of the cup just inside the vaginal opening, you need to find a cup that’s a bit short. It sounds like you have a medium to low cervix. What cup are you using?
For many new users, being aware of a cup inside of them is very common. Sometimes that feeling goes away soon after and other times it takes some time to get used to. Sometimes it even lingers for a couple to a few periods. However, it should never cause you any discomfort or pain.
Can you feel the cup at the opening of your vagina? It may be too long and causing you irritating or to chafe. I know that when I have troubles with a cup and I insert and remove it several times, I start to get dry. Although the cup doesn’t absorb your natural fluids, it can carry it away each time we remove the cup. This can make inserting it very difficult. Try a water-based lubricant to help ease the cup back in.
If you’re experiencing staining with a cup, rinse it with cold water until all the blood is gone before washing it with hot water. Hot water will set blood stains in.
As for the suction feeling even after you’ve removed the cup, make sure that you break the suction by pinching the cup or collapsing the side of the body before gently tugging down on it. If there’s a suction when you remove the cup, you can tug down on your cervix causing some pain, discomfort, and even cramping even after the cup is removed. This seems more common with cups that have very small or no air holes.
This doesn’t happen to everyone and it probably won’t happen with every cup that you try. We will all have different experiences with different cups.
Hello Sarah! I understand about wanting to find another alternative to tampons and pads. We all have our reasons, but irritation from pads or being uncomfortable with tampons (and pads too for that matter) are very common.
Menstrual Cups are going to be completely different from both. Since a menstrual cup is inserted, it is a little similar to a tampon in that sense. However, it won’t absorb your natural moisture so it might be a little, or even a lot easier and more comfortable than inserting a tampon. AND if you do feel dry, you’re always welcome to use some water-based personal lubricant to help ease the process.
Since you don’t have much experience with any type of insertion, I would suggest trying a cup that’s on the firmer side to help the cup open without a lot of coaxing. I would also suggest one that is on the narrower side for comfort in the inserting process.
If you aren’t sure if you have a low or high cervix, I would start with an “average” sized cup. In my opinion, it’s better to find out that a cup is too long and that you need to get something shorter, then finding out a cup is too short and having a difficult time trying to locate and remove it…which can be a scary thing for a new user.
I have three cups in mind (in no particular order):
1. Monthly Cup – Medium – This is the middle of the three sizes that they have to offer. This cup is the shortest in this list, but not by very much. It has a soft body, but a secondary rim and upper rim that has a good firmness that will help this cup to open after the fold is released. 2. Diva Cup – Size 1 – This would be their middle size. They have 0,1,2 – This cup falls in the middle of the lengths in this list. The body on this cup is more narrow than the Monthly Cup. 3. Casco Cup – Small – This is the middle size. They offer a “mini”, small, and large. This cup is a bit longer than the Diva Cup and is also slightly softer.
If you have sensitivities at the vaginal area, I would suggest trying the Casco Cup. This cup has softer transitions (speed bumps) on the outside of the cup that may eliminate chafing for some.
Those are the three that I would suggest looking into without knowing an approximate measurement of your cervix.
Please know that these may be too long for comfort if you have a low to a very low cervix. If you find that these are too long, I would suggest trying the Casco Cup Mini.
Good Luck and let me know if you have any additional questions. Happy New Year!
Do you have the original Lena Cup? They also have a “Sensitive” version for those who experience too much pressure with their original verison. I would shoot them an email and let them know about the bladder pressure, they have really great customer service!
In addition, if you notice that you’re getting UTI’s or getting them more often while using the cup, it may be caused by urine getting “trapped” from that pressure. 🙁
First of all, congrats on deciding to take the leap to reusables! I know it’s a big step and there is a learning curve, but I hope that we can help sort any issues out.
I’m glad to hear that inserting the cup was fairly easy and that you experienced no leaking. However, you are right, you should not feel the cup after it is inserted.
The feeling of constant pressure or needing to urinate more frequently, feeling like the bladder isn’t completely emptied, a slow urine stream, or even constipation, can be signs that a cup is too firm and applying pressure to a sensitive area. Changing the firmness or shape/size of the cup can help ease this pressure. ______
Does the cup always create a tight seal? It’s so strange that this issue is a hit or miss for many of us. Since we’re all different, each of us is going to have different experiences with a specific cup. In this case, I have never had the Dutchess Cup (or any others with the exact same design) create a tight seal for me. BUT, I know it happens often that cups that I don’t experience that with, others do and vice versa.
No one can guarantee that you won’t experience this with any given cup. However, it seems more common when cups have very small air holes or no air holes at all.
The only thing that I can suggest for this, it to try a cup that has more length to it for an easier reach, if possible. ______
When we insert a menstrual cup, even if we place it low, our muscles will tense up with regular movements and “squeeze” the cup. Depending on “fit” this can move the cup upwards into the vaginal fornix around the cervix, or push the cup out of the vagina.
Think about it this way…create an “O” around an egg by placing the pointer and thumb tips together. Then slow and gently close the diameter by squeezing the egg. You’ll find that the egg will start to move up or down. Probably upwards to sit on your fisted hand.
So you’re not doing anything wrong. Our PFM (pelvic floor muscles) play a big part in what’s happening. They tense up and relax with everyday movements. ______
With everything that you’ve shared with me, I had a few cups in mind that might make things a bit more comfortable and easier. You didn’t mention anything about how light or heavy your flow is, so I didn’t use that detail in my selection.
Dutchess Cup (large) Measurements for comparison: Total Length: 65mm w/o Stem: 54mm Diameter: 46mm Capacity to the Rim: 34ml
CASCO CUP small or large (not “mini”) – The size choice is yours depending on how light or heavy your flow is. These cups are both the same length, which even the small size is longer than the Dutchess Cup. Although the small-sized Casco Cup has about the same firmness in the rim, this cup has a narrower diameter which may ease the pressure.
Total Length: 70mm w/o Stem: 56mm Diameter: 42mm Capacity to the Rim: 30ml
The diameter of the large Casco Cup isn’t too far off of the Dutchess Cup but lacks the extra firmness that those rings near the rim add so it’s softer.
Total Length: 70mm w/o Stem: 56mm Diameter: 44mm Capacity to the Rim: 40ml
Since both sizes are longer than the Dutchess, the base of the cup might be an easier reach to help break the seal.
PRISM CUP (large) – I only suggest the large size because the small size might be too short for an easy reach. This cup has a nice narrow body, a longer stem, and has a softer rim than the Dutchess. The air holes on this cup are larger and travel downward diagonally with the higher point starting inside of the cup. The large holes and placement might be key to a gentler seal or aid in breaking it without pain.
Total Length: 75mm w/o Stem: 56mm Diameter: 45mm Capacity to the Rim: 35ml
VENUS CUP (large) – This cup has a softer body but has an invisable secondary rim and inner ring for added firmness to help the cup to open without being extremely firm.
Total Length: 71mm w/o Stem: 56mm Diameter: 47mm Capacity to the Rim: 47ml
Check out these cups and see if any of them interest you. If you have additional questions about any of them, let me know 🙂
Until then, happy browsing!!
Did that change in your period just start or has it been unpredictible for a while? I find it very strange that they would prescribe something so strong if this isn’t a normal thing for you.
My period was very irregular for over a year before my doctor prescribed anything for me to take to try to “correct” it. And even then, they started with birth control pills to regulate my cycle and flow.
Since I am not a medical physician, I would suggest seeking out an ob-gyn. They are specilized in the reproductive system and would be best to set of plan of action in correcting what (if anything) is wrong.
Good Luck <3
I’m so sorry to hear about all of your medical issues 🙁 and your loss. I really can’t say what is happening with your cycle and/or your period. But, I will say that the short period and spotting might be because of your medical issues and stress! Stress can play a BIG part of sending your body out of whack. Since none of us are doctors here we can’t give you any medical advice or prescribe you with any medications. You’ll have to seek medical attention for that. I wish you the best and hope that you and a doctor can figure things out.
Good Luck & Warm thoughts <3
Our cervix is always on the move during our cycle. It’s at the highest position when we’re ovulating. Some times it’s so high that some people can’t reach it very easily or can’t find it at all! When we near our period our cervix starts to lower. A couple of days before the start of a period to a couple of days into it, our cervix is normally at the lowest position. Some people don’t notice a huge change, and others feel a noticable difference. Around day 4-5 of our period, the cervix starts its way back up.
So the best times to check the position is at the very beginning of your period and then again around the middle to end. This will give you an idea if your cervix moves enough to need a second cup. A shorter one for comfort if your cervix drops low, and/or a longer one for an easier reach if your cervix moves up high to very high.
Good Luck! <3
Hi Brittany! How is the length of the MeLuna? Does it still feel too long for you? You could try turning the cup inside out…that is IF you’re comfortable removing a cup without a stem. This will shorten the cup by just a bit, as well as making it slightly more narrow. If it’s comfortable this way, there’s no harm in continuing to use it. If it still feels too long, at least we know that you need something even shorter.
Here’s some info about inserting and removing a menstrual cup: https://menstrualcupreviews.net/how-to-use-a-menstrual-cup/#Insert_and_remove
You might find some helpful info or tips in that video 🙂
Not all cups will create a tight seal for one person or another. After you insert the cup give it a gentle tug and see if there’s any resistance at all. If there is, chances are it created a seal. If it slides down easily, then it most likely didn’t create a seal. Try pinching the base a few times or inserting a finger and rotate the cup.
MeLuna may offer a “soft” version depending on your location. It’s not offered in the USA from their US website, but you may be able to purchase it from their Germany site or another site that carries their cups.
Hi Em! I would suggest checking out this link first: https://menstrualcupreviews.net/how-to-choose-a-menstrual-cup/
It may help narrow down some cup options depending on what you want and need. You can also find info on how to locate and measure your cervix.
So far, I would suggest starting with a cup on the firmer side. It will be easier to open, as well as stay open during your (semi) activities unless you have a sensitive bladder or bowel in which I would suggest a medium/firm cup.
Until I know an approximate height of your cervix, I can’t really determine if I should suggest a short cup or a longer cup for you.
See if you can gather more info from visiting that link. I’d be happy to try to narrow some cups down for you after that.
Hi Emma! First I do have to say that I can’t guarantee that one or any of the cups that I suggest will work perfectly for you. Some people are lucky, have no problems with “fit” or comfortable with the first cup that they try. Others, might not be as fortunate. However, I can narrow a few down that might work better for you than some others. The Lunette is a great cup, but it might be a little too firm if you have some issues urinating with a tampon in. I would probably choose something more middle of the road but has a decent firmness (at least in the rim) to stand up to you vigorous exercise routine. Here are three cups that might interest you in order from the softest to the firmest rim:
Yuuki “Rainbow” – This is their softest firmness version which still has a good “pop” to it. EvaCup – A soft body cup that has a wide secondary rim to help the mouth of the cup to open. LaliCup – The medium is their “go to” cup in size. It’s the shortest of the bunch but still holds a nice 36ml to the rim for heavier periods. This cup has a unique channel pattern that helps it fold up smaller and easier as well as helps it open when the fold is released. Yuuki “Soft” – The firmness of this cup compares more to an average “medium” firm cup instead of “soft”. A lot of people who do very physical activities say that this cup stays open for them during their workouts without being overly firm like the Yuuki “Classic” may be. Lunette – This cup has the firmest rim of the bunch. Many love how well it pops open on its own, but others find it to be too firm for their sensitive bladder.
Check out each of the cups and see if any interest you 🙂 Good Luck!
If you’re not opposed to shopping online, there’s a “hub” store located in New Zealand. That would be the closest (that I know of) to you. Search “Menstrual Cups NZ”.
I’m gonna work a little backward with your post 😛
First, “cruelty-free”. There had been claims about “cruelty-free”, “not test on animals” and/or vegan/non-vegan cups. It depends on how YOU define these terms. They’re not so black and white. It also may depend on how far back you want to trace the making of a menstrual cup.
If a cup is made of Medical Grade Silicone, it will also have a bio-compatibility certificate. Which means, there were a series of tests that were performed to determine if there is a potential toxicity when the silicone is in contact with living tissue. These tests were done on a “host” or “living tissue”.
Rabbits and/or rats were often used. Other tests may have been performed on living cells, but not actual living creatures. This testing was done long ago and is not performed regularly after the silicone supplier/manufacturer has established that their silicone is safe.
So…the cup company (the seller) didn’t do animal testing, the cup manufacturer (the company/facility that molds the cups) probably didn’t do animal testing, but the silicone manufacturer (the company that supplies the silicone) had to do some kind of testing to prove that the silicone was safe to be used on or within the body.
The silicone that is being used today by most of the reputable brands, were not tested on animals. After a silicone supplier has done all of the testings for biocompatibility and has established that their silicone is safe, they no longer need to continue to test the silicone on a regular basis.
BUT….there was testing done at some point.
Another issue, which is also not as black and white, has to do with how a person feels if the parent company offers other items that may have been tested on animals. An item/product may be manufactured to be cruelty-free for one company, but the manufacturer may also supply items which are not.
So again, it all depends on how far you want to backtrack.
“Tight” – It’s hard to pinpoint where people are referring to when they mention this. The vaginal opening or the pelvic floor muscles. It also doesn’t give me any accuracy as fingers, toys, penises, and other objects come in all sorts of shapes, sizes, and widths. However, the vaginal opening is made of elastic tissues. It can stretch to accommodate something (a human) the size of a decent sized watermelon and then return to almost if not the same position after a short time. The vaginal canal and vaginal fornix can stretch upward and outward 200 times its normal size. Again, returning to its previous shape/size/position after a short time. The pelvic floor muscles can become weak, but they can also be toned once again with kegel exercises. A lot of time when we have penetrated intercourse, we tense this area which makes it feel smaller or “tighter”.
If you’ve used a tampon before, a menstrual cup will fold up with an insert point that is just about as small as a regular size/super tampon. Most large size menstrual cups are about the same width of an “average” sized penis.
With a heavy flow, I would suggest “average” or large capacity. With a sensitive bladder, I would suggest a “medium” firm cup to start with. You don’t want to go too soft and have troubles opening a cup. Starting in the middle will allow you to go softer or more firm if it doesn’t suit you. Having a high cervix, I would suggest “V”-shaped cups as opposed to “Bell”-shaped cups. Also stay away from flared rims if your cervix is very high. I would double check your cervix again during day 1-3 of your period to see if it drops down. This phase of your cycle is the lowest point at which your cervix will position itself. Around day 4 and on, it will start moving back up to it’s highest position at ovulation. Your exercise level may be fine to start with (again) something in the “medium” firmness.
Here are some cups that come to mind based off of the info you’ve shared:
LaliCup medium or large – These cups have a unique channel pattern around the body to help this cup fold up smaller and easier, while also helping to open after the fold is released. These cups are higher capacity than the “average” cup without the added length. Although this is more of a bell-shaped cup, it has a regular style rim (and secondary rim) that will hopefully keep it from riding up and sitting too high for you to reach.
EvaCup large – This cup has a soft comfortable body but also has a higher and firmer secondary rim to help the mouth of the cup to open.
Yuuki large in “Rainbow” or “Soft” – These cups are on the longer side of “average”. If your cervix drops below “medium” this cup might feel too long. The “Rainbow” version is the softest version that they have to offer. The “Soft” is actually more of a “medium” firmness compared to other cups on the market.
If you have heavy clotting with Endometriosis, I would probably narrow your choice to trying the LaliCup medium or large, first since they have the higher capacity.
I understand that you feel uncomfortable with lubricants, but if you feel dry, a WATER-based lube can be used with a silicone cup and then can be wiped away much easier than other types of lubes.
I hope this answered your questions, and I hope that you can find a cup that suits your wants and needs as well as be comfortable.
Hi Katie, With so many cups on the market these days, I can understand the feeling of being overwhelmed by choosing just ONE. Some people buy the first cup that they come across (normally the Diva) and it works perfectly for them! Others aren’t so fortunate 🙁 I hope that I can help you narrow down a few cups.
First of all, is there a reason that you think a larger diameter wouldn’t be comfortable for you? My daughter is younger than you, has never been pregnant and prefers the larger cups for the capacity. She also finds that they stay in place better than some of the narrower cups (which, depending on the shape of the cup will slide down for her).
The way that I narrow down/suggest cups are not based on age or if the person has been pregnant. I feel that certain situations or experiences get better results. If someone were to follow the age/pregnancy “rule” then it would be simple to say, “get any cup in a small”. Which doesn’t seem to work out for many.
For someone who is not sure of cervical height, I would normally suggest something in the “middle”. More of the “average” large size cup or medium instead of small. Using the size of a tampon really doesn’t give me the best idea as tampons can be inserted into the vaginal fornix NEXT to the cervix. This area expands upward and outward to accommodate a variety of shapes and sizes including toys, a penis, a baby…etc.
With the information that you have provided: med/high cervix and that you’re active, there are still many cups that sound like they would be fine. Do you have any bladder or bowel sensitivities? Is your flow light or heavy? How long before you need to change your “super” tampon?…these would help me determine your situation a little better.
Sadly, if I suggest a cup or cups at this point, it’s going to be a shot in the dark for me too 🙁
Hi There! Thank you for including the info that you could. Since you have a sensitive bladder but are also physically active, I would start off in the middle with firmness. That way, you can determine if you need something a little more soft or a little more firm if the first cup you choose to try feels uncomfortable. I choose mostly large sizes (one medium), but if you’re more comfortable with a small, then that’s okay too but you may find yourself emptying your cup more frequently.
Here are the cups that come to mind for your “stats”: EvaCup Venus Cup LaliCup (medium) Lena Cup “Sensitive” MyCup NZ Saalt
These are listed in order from the softest body to the firmest.
All but the EvaCup are on the shorter side of the “average” sized large just in case you have a medium to low cervix. Check those out and let me know if you have any questions, concerns or need some extra info about them.
You can check out the link below and see if there’s any info that you can fill in even if you don’t locate and measure your cervix. It’s going to be a shot in the dark for me to suggest some cups for you if I don’t know anything about your situation.
Your age and how many pregnancies/births you’ve had really doesn’t play into how I narrow down cups. More info on that is in the link, too.
Being that you’re active and a virgin, I would suggest a cup a bit more in the middle on firmness and probably something in a size small.
Here are a few cups that come to mind: Yuuki “Rainbow” or “Soft” – small – Both firmness versions are more of a medium. The silicone is nice and “poppy”. Most people find that these open easily without a lot of help.
LaliCup – small or medium – This cup was designed with a unique channel pattern that helps it fold smaller as well as helps it open when the fold is released.
Venus Cup – small – This cup has a decent capacity for a small sized cup. It’s of medium firmness and has no markings on the outside for a comfortable insertion process.
Saalt Cup – small – This cup has a good firmness in the body which will help it open easily. All of these cups have a good sturdy stem if your cervix ends up being on the medium to high side.
Monthly Cup – normal size – This cup has a firmer rim which helps it open, but the body is on the softer side. The body is narrow but is quite a bit longer than the others on this list. This cup has a short stem with a ball end, but since this cup is on the longer side, I’m hoping that the “fit” will be okay.
See if any of these interest you. If you have additional questions about one of these cups or any others, I’d be happy to try to answer them for you.
The MoonCup is a narrow cup, and I have heard many others with the same issues that you’re experiencing. I would suggest trying a cup that’s a bit wider. It may help keep your cup in place while also providing you a higher capacity. Since the rim of the MoonCup is on the firmer side, I didn’t worry about picking something that was also on the firmer side. If you have concerns about that, let me know and I’ll see what else I can come up with.
Here are a few cups that I think might work: MyCup (large) 40ml to the rim LaliCup (medium) 36ml to the rim Saalt Cup (large) 35ml to the rim These three cups are about the same size (body length) or shorter than the MoonCup.
If your flow is on the lighter side: Super Jennie (small) 32ml to the rim MyCup (small) 29ml to the rim
The “RebelKate” cup as you know it, seems to give several of us a problem with opening. I too had some troubles with this cup (under a different name), but my daughter did not. I also had some issues with the LuvUr Body cup which has that same dip in right under the rim. It seemed to me that it makes the cup softer in that area and didn’t allow it to open as easily as I would like. This cup also does not have a secondary rim which helps the cup to pop open.
Being that you have a high cervix, not extremely active, and don’t have bladder sensitivities, you have a wide range of cups to choose from. I would probably suggest something that’s a little firmer since you had some troubles, but nothing too firm right from the start.
I would also suggest a “V”-shaped cup for the length.
Some cups that might work better for you are:
LaliCup (medium) – This cup has a wider diameter than the small RK Cup. However, this cup was designed with a unique channel pattern that allows this cup to fold up smaller as well as helps this cup to open when pressure is released. This cup is bell-shaped but has a regular style rim that doesn’t seem to ride up as high as cups with a flared rim. The shape of this cup allows more capacity.
Venus Cup (small) – This cup has a decent capacity for a small sized cup. Although it’s not a “V”-shaped cup, it is narrow and has a long stem for an easy reach for your high cervix. This cup is a medium firmness.
EvaCup (small) – This cup has a slightly larger diameter but also features a secondary rim that travels lower on the body to help the rim to open. Less struggle to get a cup to open may = less pain 🙂
Diva Cup (small) – Again, the diameter is slightly wider, but this cup is still narrow to the base, It’s longer with some firmness to the rim and secondary rim.
Yuuki “Rainbow” or “Soft” (small) – Even though the “Rainbow” version is the softest version the Yuuki Cup has to offer, it still has a good spring back to the silicone. The “Soft” version is closer to a medium firm “average” cup.
VCup (from India) – I would consider this a long cup. The body is longer than the Diva Cup and is quite a bit more firm, but also stays narrow to the base.
Monthly Cup (size normal) – This cup has a soft body but the rim is pretty firm and should open easily.
If you’re still having some troubles getting a cup to slide in, you can use some WATER-based lube 🙂
Thank you! I need those hugs and well wishes. I’ve had the flu all week 🙁 It’s kicking my butt! Plus I’ve had family flying in cause my youngest is graduating tomorrow :O No time to be sick!
I’m excited about your purchase 🙂 I hope it goes well for you. Good Luck and have a great weekend!
Thank you so much for all of your kind words 🙂 I’m happy to hear that you find some of my videos helpful. It’s comments like yours that keep me going!
I can feel your frustration in your post 🙁 I’m so sorry that you haven’t found your “Goldilocks” cup yet, but you do sound determined as ever to find it! I can tell you’ve been doing a LOT of research and I’m glad to hear you know what you likely need or want in a cup. I can’t make you any promises, but hopefully, I can at least get you closer to what you’re looking for…..a decent capacity for the heavy days, & comfort.
Some notes that you’ve included: Active Med/high cervix Heavy bleeding first 3-4 days
Diva small – leaking, cramping SJ large felt too big SJ small – leaking Lily Cup – too long, soft, won’t open
Considering EvaCup small, OrganiCup or LaliCup small or medium.
43mm rim or less ——————————
I don’t know what it is about the Diva, but I hear a lot of complaints that it causes extra cramping. I mean, it’s a great cup…for some, but for many others, it’s either too long or causes cramps. I’m one of the ones who experienced extra cramping with it although I’ve used very similar cups and cups that were way softer or way more firm. Strange isn’t it, that just a slight change will make or break?
Anyhow, I agree with you about the bell-shaped cups with a flared rim. They may “fit” your body well, but they’ll probably ride up and be harder to reach AND lessen the capacity since your cervix will sit deeper into the cup.
I’m wondering if it’s the diameter of the rim or the shape of the cup that didn’t work for you with the Super Jennie (large). It is a widebody cup, so that may have been the cause of the “balloon” feeling.
The large LaliCup might actually work for you if you want to take a chance. They may be offered in a two pack (on a couple of sites). If they are and it’s feasible, I would try both the medium and large. (Don’t forget that I have discount codes in almost every description box of my videos) Although the large has a 46mm diameter, the body is more narrow than the SJ large and without the stem it’s 10mm shorter than the Lily Cup without its stem. It’s up to you… 🙂
Here are the cups you had in question (and the small Diva for comparison):
Small EvaCup: 25ml to the rim Small LaliCup: 27ml to the rim Medium LaliCup: 36ml to the rim Small OrganiCup: 25ml to the rim Small Diva: 27ml to the rim
I would definitely say to try the medium LaliCup even if you want to pass on the large. It sounds like all of the smaller cups are riding up too much for you. You need the length so your cervix doesn’t compromise all of the capacity, PLUS the semi-rounded body for added capacity.
I honestly don’t think that you’ll be satisfied with the other small cups that you mentioned. I feel like you’ll probably have the same issues with overflowing sooner than you expect 🙁
I don’t work out as much as you do, but so far, I haven’t experienced any problems with the LaliCup leaking or collapsing while doing various activities including lifting, hula hoop :P, biking, trikking (3 wheel scooter), pilates, yoga, swimming, elliptical and intercourse.
Two other cups that I might suggest is the small MyCup NZ or the Venus Cup. I’m a bit worried that you might have the same outcome as the small SJ, but the Venus Cup small or large might be a good match. Both sizes have a decent capacity. In fact, the large has one of the highest capacities on the market at 47ml. The body on these cups are on the softer side, but have an invisible secondary rim to help them to open. The large has an inner ring for added firmness without being too firm.
I’ll have the Merula XL soon, but that one might give you that “balloon” feeling, too 🙁
Well, those are my thoughts…. I hope I addressed everything you were wondering about and I hope that you find something or that the LaliCup works out for you (if you end up getting it). I’ll keep my fingers crossed!!
If you have any others questions, concerns or new brainstorms, feel free to reply! Until then, hugssss & happy browsing!
Hi KB, “Normal” is different for everyone, and since none of us are doctors on this site, I can only speculate. You’re still young and your hormones are still out of wack even if it’s been over two years since you’ve started your period.
If you’re concerned, I would definitely check with a doctor. They can tell you for sure if and what is going on and to put your mind at peace. They may also be able to suggest or prescribe something to regulate your cycle.
Good Luck!! <3
Since you have a medium/high cervix, I would probably suggest someone more “V” shaped or something that was a little longer in length than the Ruby.
The Ruby cup is on the short side which may be causing you the issue of leaking. Do you find that this cup migrates higher? It seems to be a common thing with “bell”-shaped cups, even more so with “bell”-shaped cups that have a flared rim like the Fleur.
If a cup is riding up and sitting higher, it may allow your cervix to drop deeper into the cup which can compromise the capacity.
Going smaller might not be the ticket for those with a high cervix. If the cup rides up high and your cervix moves up higher (normally middle to the end of your period), the cup may be harder to reach. If you don’t have any worries about reaching a short cup then it’s fine, but I would still suggest something either wider in the body or with a bit of length for added capacity to accommodate your cervix AND your flow.
Here’s a few cups that might interest you. I’ve included the Lunette since it’s one on your list. However, I didn’t include the Fleur.
Lunette (large) – The Lunette is slightly shorter than many of the “average” large cups out there. It is considered a firm cup. Nice and “poppy” for getting the cup to open, but may not be comfortable for someone who has a sensitive bladder (sensitive as in pain, not incontinence).
Monthly Cup (plus size) – This cup is about the same length as the Lunette, but both the body and rim are a bit softer.
EvaCup (large) – This cup is slightly longer than the two cups above. It is also a little softer than the Monthly Cup in both the rim and body. However, the EvaCups secondary rim travels higher up the body to help this cup to open.
Yuuki “Rainbow” (large) – This is one of the longer “V” shaped cups out there that also has a slightly higher capacity than the “average” large @ approx 38ml. The “Rainbow” version is the softest cup that they offer, but still has a nice spring to the rim.
If you would rather stick to more “bell” shaped cups, here are a couple that might give you the capacity and comfort, as well as hold up while performing your activities.
MyCup NZ (large) – The body on the cup is about the same length as the Ruby. However, the body doesn’t taper as quickly to the base as the Ruby Cup does. Although this cup is on the shorter side, it still holds 40ml. The rim is a tad softer than the Ruby, but because the body stays rounded out, the body may feel a little on the firmer side.
Venus Cup (large) – This cup is of average length compared to other large menstrual cups on the market. The body is on the softer side but it also has an invisible secondary rim and an inner rim for some added firmness to the upper half the the cup to help it to open. This cup holds 47ml to the top of the rim.
LaliCup (large) – This cup probably looks the most like the Ruby Cup among the cups that I’ve mentioned. However it is about 4mm longer. This cup holds 40ml to the rim and has a unique channel pattern that helps this cup fold up easier and smaller, as well as helps it open when the pressure is released. The rim on this cup is slightly more firm, but because of the channels, the body feels softer.
See if any of these cups catch your eye. If you need more info about them, feel free to reply 🙂 Until then, happy browsing and good luck!
Hello There! For a high cervix, I would suggest a cup that’s “V”-shaped. For a semi-sensitive bladder, I would try to stick to more medium/soft cups. Births and age don’t really play a role in the way that I choose a cup for someone unless they are not comfortable with penetration or have no experience with it in any way (tampon, finger, intercourse…etc.).
The cups that come to mind would be: Venus Cup EvaCup Yuuki “Rainbow” or “Soft” version Casco Cup
The size is up to you. The larger cups would give you more length (easier reach for a high cervix) as well as the capacity for your heavier days. The small would be fine but you may have to work a bit more to reach the cup, and you would need to empty them more frequently on your two first days.
The EvaCup and Yuuki Cup small sizes are shorter than their counterparts. The Casco small is the same length as the large but has a narrower diameter.
If you need more info on any of these cups or would like me to suggest a few more, feel free to reply 🙂 Until then, happy browsing!
With a high cervix, you could probably pick almost any cup. However, I would suggest starting with a more “V”-shape or a bell-shape with a regular rim and a medium firmness.
“V”-shape or bell-shape with a regular rim – Since you have a high cervix, these cups will give you the length to be able to reach the cup without hunting for it or having a hard time reaching it. Bell-shaped cups may give you more capacity if your period ends up being heavy. Remember that you don’t have to match the absorbancy to the flow like a tampon. It’s safe to use a large/high capacity cup even if you’re not bleeding – like when you’re expecting your period but it hasn’t started yet or when you have continual spotting.
Medium Firmness – If you’re unsure if you have any sensitivities bladder or bowl, the middle of the road firmness is the best place to start. You can then adjust the firmness with another cup up or down (softer or firmer).
People who stop using birth control sometimes experience heavy bleeding when their periods return since the hormones are trying to balance back out. A menstrual cup may be a great option since most of the hold more than a regular tampon.
Some great cups that you might check into are:
“V” Shaped Cups:
Yuuki “Soft” (large) – This cup is a bit longer than the “average” large size cups on the market. The “soft” version is actually their middle option in firmness. In comparison to other cups, it’s more of a medium firm cup. This cup holds just under 40ml.
EvaCup (large) – This cup has a soft body, but the secondary rim is positioned higher on the body and helps this cup to open. It’s of “average” capacity at 30ml.
MonthlyCup (Plus size) – Another average capacity at 34ml. This cup has a softer body, but has a nice “poppy” rim and a sturdy short stem.
Bell-Shaped Cups with a Regular Rim:
LaliCup (medium or large) – This cup has a unique channel pattern that travels around the body. It helps the cup fold up easier and smaller, while it also helps the cup to open when pressure is released. This cup is bell-shaped with a regular rim. The medium size capacity is equal to or holds more than other large size cups. The large LaliCup is one of the few 40ml+ capacity cups out there. With it’s bell-shape, this cup holds a good amount of flow without the added length.
All of these *should* hold up with all of the walking. I’ve done more vigorous activities with each of these and have used them for full days without any issues. I can’t guarantee you’ll have the same experience as I have, but it’s someplace to start 🙂
If you have additional questions about these cups or any others, feel free to reply 🙂 Until then, good luck and happy browsing!
Most, but not all, people can locate and get an approximate measurement of their cervix on their own 🙂 Detailed instructions can be found here: https://menstrualcupreviews.net/how-to-choose-a-menstrual-cup/#Cervical_Height
But basically, it’s a matter of inserting your finger during your period and taking note as to how far you can insert your finger before reaching your cervix. The 1st knuckle line (closest to your finger tip) would be considered a low cervix. The 2nd knuckle line would be medium. The 3rd knuckle line (complete finger) would be a high cervix.
If you’re very active, I would suggest a firmer cup. A majority of the very active people who I’ve spoken to share that a firmer cup seems to work better for them. However, if you have a sensitive bladder, you might want to try a medium firm cup first so that the pressure doesn’t cause you issues.
My daughter and I actually use our menstrual cups to help with stress incontinence leaks. The cup applies enough pressure to your urethras to stop these leaks without being too firm to cause cramping, discomfort, or pain.
If/when you find and measure your cervix and would like some cup suggestions, I’d be happy to give you a few. 🙂
I only have two. They were so far apart that they were on different phases of life which kept me on my toes! They’re grown now and I’m patiently waiting for grandbabies 😛 When I announced that I was ready to be a grandma, my kids told my husband that they think I needed a new puppy!!! Anyhow, I’m glad that you found something that interested you. I hope the LaliCup works for you as well as it does for me. That cup has the longest running on my top three favorites list. Please stop by again if you need any further help or have additional questions. Congrats on your choice and Good Luck!! <3 btw...Happy (belated) Mama's Day!
I don’t know about anyone else on this site, but I know that I got into uploading YouTube videos to help people just like you 🙂 If I didn’t think I was (hopefully) helping, I wouldn’t keep doing it!
My, my! You have a handful! You have to be one busy person! 😀
So normally, I don’t pay attention to age and how many pregnancies or births someone has had. You can’t really determine how comfortable a cup is going to be by using those factors. I personally like to work with cervix height (which you stated), activity (which you also stated), and if someone has a sensitive bladder. The only thing I might guess at with your pregnancies and age is that you might have some stress incontinence issues. Correct me if I’m wrong, though. Since you didn’t mention anything about a sensitive bladder, I’m going to suggest a couple/few cups that “might” work for you with the info that you have provided (along with maybe stress incontinence?).
Having a medium cervix, you could use a good number of cups. However, since you mentioned that you have a heavy flow for the first couple of days, I would probably suggest something in a higher capacity.
Unlike tampons, a menstrual cup is safe to use no matter how light or heavy your flow is. You don’t HAVE to match the absorbency/capacity to your flow. You can even use the cup when you’re expecting your period, but not yet bleeding.
In fact, my daughter and I use our cups when we’re not bleeding to help with stress incontinence. The cup applies some gentle pressure to our urethra and helps stop leaks.
Anyhow, the suggestions below are good “middle of the road” cups. They’re more of a medium/firm cup with a higher capacity, (hopefully) not too long, or too short, and will also (hopefully) be easy for a beginner to get to open.
Monthly Cup Plus Size- A “V”- shaped cup that’s a little shorter than other large size cups on the market. It has a soft body, but a medium/firm secondary rim and top rim that may make this cup easy to open. Total Length: 64mm w/o Stem: 55mm Diameter: 47mm Capacity to the Rim: 34ml
Venus Cup – The size is up to you. Both have a decent capacity. The large has one of the highest capacities on the market. Small – Total Length: 71mm w/o Stem: 47mm Diameter: 42mm Capacity to the Rim: 29ml
Large – Total Length: 71mm w/o Stem: 56mm Diameter: 47mm Capacity to the Rim: 47ml
Saalt Large- A – Bell Shaped cup that tapers to a point at the base. Bell-shaped cups are great for a medium to low cervix. This cup has a slightly flared rim but also a secondary rim which will help this cup to open. Since the flare on this cup is so slight, it may not ride up and sit as high as some of the other bell-shaped cups with a flared rims. Total Length: 70mm w/o Stem: 52mm Diameter: 47mm Capacity to the Rim: 35ml
LaliCup Medium – Another bell-shaped cup, but this one has a regular style of rim without a flare to it. This cup has a unique channel feature that helps this cup to fold up smaller as well as helps the cup to open after it is released. Total Length: 73mm w/o Stem: 53mm Diameter: 43mm Capacity to the Rim: 36ml
MyCup Large – A bell-shaped cup with a wide base that is rounded. Great for capacity and to help keep the cup from poking outside of the body. This cup has a slight flare to the rim, but no secondary rim. I was still able to get this cup to open without any troubles. Total Length: 67mm w/o Stem: 51mm Diameter: 46mm Capacity to the Rim: 40ml
The average capacity is about 30ml, so you get a little more play time before having to visit a restroom. The LaliCup is one of my favs and I can use the medium for about 4-6 hours on a heavy day. They have a large size as well, which is 55mm without the stem and holds 40ml to the rim. Remember that you can trim the stem if you find that you need to.
All of these cups have pretty good rims. I haven’t felt any extra pressure or experienced any extra cramping with them. The Lali, MyCup, and Saalt all have rims that are very similar in firmness. The Monthly Cup is the only one that has a noticeable difference being more firm than the rest.
Check out those cups and let me know if you have any questions about them or any other cup/s that you come across that may have caught your eye 🙂 Until then, good luck and have a great weekend!
First of all, I’m not a doctor and this site should not be used to replace one. If you have concerns, your doctor should be willing to explain why they recommended the prescription and what it does. If you’re not comfortable with the treatment, they should be able to give you an alternative option.
I do know what you’re going through. My period used to be every 15 days, like clockwork. I remember when I knew I was pregnant for the first time. It was 18 days and I hadn’t started my flow.
Anyhow, not too long after I gave birth my periods were still very irregular even for my irregular period! I was put on a pill that was a higher dosage of progesterone (similar to what you’re taking now). Then again several years later, I was prescribed something similar to stop my unusually long periods.
Currently, my daughter is also having some issues and was prescribed with the same to start her period again.
Duphaston is used to treat several conditions in which there is a hormonal imbalance that progesterone is lacking. It’s a synthetic progesterone.
There are several hormones that are present during menstruation. They “kick in” at different times for different reasons.
Progesterone tells the body to create a thick lining in the uterus (endometrium) to prepare the uterus for implantation (of an egg). If there is no pregnancy, progesterone levels decrease and the lining is shed (menstruation).
If any hormone is out of balance, the menstrual cycle can become irregular.
Many people find the synthetic hormone to be helpful in regulating their cycle. Others feel that any type of synthetic hormone is bad.
It’s up to you to weigh your options. For myself, the long, heavy, irregular periods were too much for me to handle. For my daughter, missing several periods in consecutive months made her worry. Therefore we both chose to try the synthetic hormone.
As with anything, people may or may not experience side effects. They can include but are not limited to, headaches, spotting between periods, tender breasts, rash, nausea, and dizziness.
I know it’s frustrating 🙁 I hope that your period becomes regular again and that you can stop taking Duphaston, or that your doctor is understanding in your concerns and has an alternative option.
I’m sorry that you’re having problems finding a cup that might be easy for you to reach. Were you able to reach in and locate your cervix at all? If it was possible, I would suggest taking note of a mark on your finger/hand and then use a ruler to measure your hand. That’s one way that you can narrow down a cup size. If you weren’t able to reach your cervix, wait until you have your period and try again. Our cervix is at it’s lowest position during menstruation. Squat and bear down with your pelvic floor muscles to bring your cervix even lower.
I want to be able to suggest a cup that will “fit” you, but also something that will be easy to reach.
Alternatively, there are two cups that I know of that have applicators. One (AmyCup Original) might work for you as it assists with inserting and removing, but the other (Enna Cycle) only helps with inserting. The stem is very long and is supposed to help remove the cup, but it’s so thin and flimsy that I wouldn’t suggest it since it doesn’t help break the “suction” if one is created.
A funnel type cup (like the Aiwo Cup) might also be something to look into. Although the funnel was made to be able to empty the contents without removing the cup, I found that it also releases the “suction” that some cups create which will make it easy to break that suction and remove the cup. This cup had been one of the easiest cups for me to open and place. Even though it was a bit too long for my comfort, I was able to fold and tuck the funnel behind my pubic bone and had no issues. In the end, I just preferred the other style cups for the capacity.
One last option, not available yet but taking pre-orders (two est ship dates listed on their site – May and July May 2018) is the Keela Cup. It will have an adjustable stem that actually pulls the rim down to break the seal.
Hi Rhiannon! I can never rotate my cup as they instruct to do by pinching the base. I normally insert a finger next to the cup, press the body of the cup in a bit and swipe around. This allows me to feel if my cervix is on the outside of the cup, that the cup is open, and it also makes the cup turn a bit. You might find something helpful here: https://menstrualcupreviews.net/how-to-choose-a-menstrual-cup/#Insert_and_remove
Good Luck!!! <3
I’m so happy to hear that you’re going to attempt to switch to reusable menstrual cups! Congrats!! Based on the info that you included, the Fleur Cup may work for you 🙂
If you only want to purchase one cup, I would suggest the large – 1. for the capacity on your heavier days (cups are fine to use even when you’re not bleeding so it’s fine when you’re on your light days, too!), 2. because the large has some length to it that may make it easier for you to reach when come time for removal (med-high cervix).
I personally like to have at least two to three different cups. Either in a different size, shape or firmness and either in the same brand or different. Since our cervix moves positions during our cycle, it may be lower on certain days than other which may make a longer cup feel uncomfortable or feel like it may be too large. That’s when the small…or a different shape/size would come in handy.
If/when your cervix moves up higher, it may make a small/short cup harder to reach especially if it creates a tight seal/suction.
If it’s feasible for you, I would get the small/large two pack. Good Luck & Happy Earth Day!
Usually, if a cup is moving; sliding or shifting, it’s the wrong shape or size. Bell-shaped cups with a flared rim tend to ride up and sit higher than normal. Great for a medium to low cervix and may make it easier for those with a tilted cervix as the flared rim can “scoop” it up.
I would probably suggest the large “original” Lena Cup, if you’d like to stay with the same brand. The large may help the cup stay in place. Your age and if you’ve been pregnant don’t really matter if the cup isn’t perfect for you 🙁 I suggested the “original” because it is on the firmer side and may help apply a bit of pressure on your urethra to stop stress incontinence.
On a side note, according to fertility specialists, our cervix move height positions throughout our cycle. It’s that the highest point during ovulation and then starts to move down as we near our period. During our period it’s at the lowest point. So your cervix may be causing the cup to be ill-fitting during its transitions.
You may want to invest in a backup cup to have during those days. It’s great to have options! If you want to give another cup a try, I would recommend checking out the new Saalt Cup 🙂 Good Luck!! <3
Hi Amy! I’m guessing/hoping that you were able to remove your cup 🙁 I had a similar experience with a cup that was too short for my very high cervix and needed the assistance of my husband to remove it 🙁 It was frustrating and a little scary. Some people don’t feel that cervical height is a factor in choosing a cup, but I feel that this is the exact reason it’s important to at least know the approximate height. If you are willing to try another cup and would like a suggestion, I’d be happy to help narrow some down for you that might be comfortable and REACHABLE! <3 Sorry that happened to you.
Hi Brittany! The part of your comment that stood out to me was, ” i cant seem to get it high enough. it sticks out of the opening of my vagina.” The Diva Cup is considered a longer cup. It’s a great cup, but a lot of people seem to have the same issues as you while wearing it. Our cervix moves all the time. Coughing, sneezing, laughing, bearing down in anyway makes it jump around. It also moves into different positions during our cycle. According to fertility specials, our cervix is at the highest point when we’re ovulating and at the low point when we’re menstruating. I know that at the beginning of my period, my cervix is on the lower side. As low as my middle knuckle. During the middle and end of my period, my cervix starts to move up and I can insert my entire finger until the knuckle on my fist. So…are you not able to insert the cup completely ONLY at night or is it during certain days of your period? If you find that it’s happening on certain days, I would suggest having a backup cup for those days. Maybe something a little shorter or bell-shaped. I like to have a couple of cups on hand for those days 🙁 On the other side, you also may be correct about dryness. If you haven’t tried a water-based personal lube to help ease the cup in yet, give that a try. In fact, try that first before you go shopping for another cup. If that’s not doing the trick, I might suggest something like the LaliCup, Saalt Cup, Fleur, Lena, or even the Lunette (shorter) or others similar in height. Here are some cups that are on the market: Cup Comparison
We chatted a little on YouTube, so I’m going to add here that if you don’t have any troubles reaching your cup without a stem, you can also try turning the cup inside out to see if it feels more comfortable. I would suggest trying this first before running out to buy a new cup. Good Luck!
Hi Jen! First of all, congrats on making the switch. I’m glad that you weren’t put off by the cup even though your initial experience wasn’t perfect. Having a mid-low cervix, a heavy period and a sensitive bladder, I would suggest looking into a bell-shaped cup either with or without a flared rim. Also, something with a higher capacity if/when possible. For comparison: Diva Cup large – w/o stem – 56mm diameter – 45mm capcity to rim – 30ml
Some cups that might interest you would be: LaliCup medium – w/o stem – 53mm diameter – 43mm capacity to the rim – 36ml
LaliCup large – w/o stem – 55mm diameter – 46mm capacity to the rim – 40ml
The LaliCup is a bell-shaped cup with a regular style rim. Bell-shaped tend to sit higher than “V” shaped cups like the V cup. The base is round, which helps keep the cup from (hopefully) poking outside of your body. This cup has a unique body design that consists of channels. These channels help the cup fold up smaller and easier while helping the cup to pop open upon release. The rim of the LaliCup is about the same firmness as the DivaCup. However, since the secondary rim is a thinner band, together the two rims on the LaliCup feels a tad softer.
Lena Cup “Sensitive” version in large – w/o stem – 52mm diameter – 44mm capacity to the rim – 30ml
This cup is bell-shaped with flared rim. This one may ride up and sit higher having a flared rim. The capacity is the same or about the same as the Diva large, but the shape and softer rim may give you the comfort that you’re looking for.
Super Jennie (SJ) large – w/o stem – 52mm diameter – 47mm capacity to the rim – 42ml
This cup is one of the higher capacity cups on the market. It’s bell-shaped with a regular style rim. The rim is a tad softer than the rim on the Diva Cup, but the SJ doesn’t have a thick secondary rim which may ease some of the bladder pressure. (I’m comparing the dark blue cup to the Diva as the blue was confirmed by the company to be slightly more firm than the rest of the colors)
The body on each of these cups may be soft enough for you to collapse the side of the cup with one finger if you need to nudge it and break the seal to remove the cup or just to reposition it. The SJ may be the one that gives you troubles opening. It’s been pegged for being a softer cup and the wide shape causes it to seem even softer.
Let me know if you need more info about these cups or any others that catch your eye. You can view and compare these cups and other at Cup Comparison
Until then, Good Luck & Happy Cup Hunting! 🙂
Is that the one that kinda looks like a guppy with a big mouth if you turn it to the side (air hole for an eye)? If it is, I had troubles with that one too, but my daughter was able to use it. I felt like the rim of this cup was too soft for my liking, while the body was a good firmness. Anyhow, it might also be the issue you’re having. Since you have a high cervix, you probably would have wanted something with a little more length anyhow. It will allow you to reach the cup a bit easier during removal. Since you’re active in martial arts, I would suggest a cup on the firmer side if you don’t have a sensitive bladder. It seems that a majority of the people that I’ve spoken to who are very active find that they leak if using a softer cup. They prefer cups like the Yuuki “soft” version, which is about a medium in an “average” cup, or the “classic” version which is one of the firmest cups on the market. Two others cups that I would suggest looking into would be the Lunette or the OrganiCup.
OrganiCup – The rim on this cup is firmer than on the RebelKate cup, but the body is a little softer.
Yuuki “soft” – The rim and body of this cup is just about the same as the OrganiCup. The difference between the two would be the silicone texture, grip rings, and stem.
Lunette – This cup looks the closest to the RebelKate cup but instead of having that dip right below the rim, it carries on. The rim on the Lunette is quite a bit more firm.
Yuuki “classic” – The “classic” version of the Yuuki in both the small and large is nicknamed “The Rock”. This cup (especially in the smaller size), is kind of hard to fold. I probably wouldn’t suggest this cup if you’re a first-timer.
All of these comparisons were made with the smaller sized cups. All of the cups that I mentioned are a bit longer than the RebelKate and also have a slightly wider diameter.
You can see and compare all of the cups here: Cup Comparison
It looks like you also left me this message somewhere else 🙂 I answered you there but also wanted to include it here just in case it helps someone else.
I’m sorry that you’re having some issues with the EvaCup. Do you have the size small or large? Are you using it on a “dry run” (not on period) or are you on your period?
Since our cervix normally drops down a bit when we are on our period, the cup might be easier to reach when you’re actually bleeding. If you are on your period and it’s hard to reach then either you’ll want to try a large size (if you have the small) or find a cup with more length (if you are using the large).
You also might want to check into cups that are a bit softer (or softer rim), or one that has a secondary rim that doesn’t travel down the body as much as the EvaCup secondary rim does. While the fat band of the secondary rim helps this cup to open, it can also apply extra pressure to one’s urethra causing cramping or problems with urination.
If this is your first time using a cup, it may just be because your body is not used to it. When we’re new, we seem to be more aware that “something” is there.
(In answer to your private message) For a lot of people, it is normal for the cup to sit higher than the pubic bone. For me, most of my cups sit beyond that.
Since you were just trying it on a dry run, your cervix still may be up higher than it will be when you are on your period. When your cervix drops (during your period) the cup may be easier to reach.
I would suggest trying to use the cup for at least one more period and see if the feeling doesn’t go away and if the cup is easier to reach while you’re actually on your period. If it doesn’t and you’re still uncomfortable, I would look into trying another cup.
I would swap out the pad as you feel necessary. I know some people who like to change it if there’s any blood present when they use the toilet. Others only swap out if they soiled their pad significantly. It’s all up to you and how comfortable you are.
If you plan on using cloth pads, people normally also invest in a “wet bag” or a “wet/dry” bag. These come in a variety of shapes, sizes and fun patterns or plain. They have a waterproof lining that keeps your soil pads contained. It may also have a “dry” area that you can store clean pads.
My niece uses a small wet bag while she’s at school. 🙂 You can find plenty to choose from on Etsy 🙂
I was so excited about what was ON the undie that I missed that 🙁 ROFL
I have heard of cup companies working with people to give them a bulk/wholesale price for charities and donations. However, you will need to contact them to see which ones are willing. Some might be able to help you more than others. They may or may not come fully packaged: a bag of cups with some flyers/pamphlets.
I would suggest being prepared with charity info such as organization name, address, phone number…etc. A company may want to ship directly to the charity to make sure that the cups aren’t going to someone who is going to resell them, but may do it in your name.
I would also like to point out that some organizations would rather have tampons and pads donated over cups since it normally requires a bit more instruction. If there is no one who can explain about the cups; how to use them and how to care for them and such, then they’re not likely to offer them unless someone inquires about them.
I was just speaking to someone who was buying cups in bulk from international sites. While I commend them on their community service, I also worry about the materials that were used to make those “cheap” cups. Something to think about if you were looking into these types of sites.
You can find more info about “cheap” cups here: https://menstrualcupreviews.net/how-to-choose-a-menstrual-cup/#Medical_Grade_Silicone_and_Cheapies
I think that you are AWESOME for wanting to reach out and help your community! You can check Facebook and see if there’s a group in your area that also does this and work with them. I know there’s a few in my area. The bonus for at least one in my area is that they know about menstrual cups, how to use them, and can give the info as needed.
With a high cervix, you can pretty much have your pick of almost any cup on the market. I would suggest a “V” shaped cup for the length and easy reach for removal.
You can also choose a bell-shaped cup with a “regular” style rim for the capacity if you have a heavier flow- (3rd pic down on this link – flared rim vs regular rim) https://menstrualcupreviews.net/what-is-a-menstrual-cup/
As for stress incontinence, my daughter and I prefer a cup that is at least medium firm so that it applies enough pressure on our urethra to stop the leaks, but not too much pressure to cause any discomfort.
If you have a sensitive bladder, you’ll probably want to stay on the softer side of the medium cups.
The cups that I would suggest looking into (and the cups that have worked for my daughter and myself for a high cervix, heavy flow, and incontinence) would be:
LaliCup – This cup comes in 3 sizes. I prefer the medium and the large. It’s bell-shaped with a regular style rim. It has a unique channel design around the body of the cup that allows it to fold up easier and smaller, but also helps the cup to pop open when released. The large size is 40+ ml which makes it one of the largest capacity cups on the market.
Yuuki – The large Yuuki is longer than most average large cups on the market. This makes it easier to reach for some that need that little extra length. It comes in two sizes and three different firmness variations; Rainbow (softest – is actually rainbow colored), Soft (medium) and Classic (one of the firmest cups on the market, also known as “the rock”). If this cup interested you, I would suggest the “Soft” version. It’s not extremely soft and not extremely firm.
Saalt – This cup is new to the market. My daughter has not tried it yet, but I have and it quickly rose to the top of my fav list. It’s bell-shaped with a regular style rim. It’s on the firmer side of medium but is still a decent pressure to my urethra without going overboard.
EvaCup – This “V”-shaped cup is on the softer side of medium. The body is soft, but the rim has some firmness to it to help it open easily. The secondary rim comes down low on the body, which will also lend a hand in opening easily. If you have a sensitive bladder, this one might be a better match.
Speaking of sensitive bladders, if you feel like you have to urinate often, feel like you didn’t empty your bladder completely when you do urinate, or that you have a slow urine stream, you may have a sensitive bladder.
I sadly can not say if any cup on the market will be “easier for a beginner” since we’ll all have different experiences with different cups.
Most beginners find that firmer cups are easier to get open. If that cup is comfortable for them after that, is what matters.
There is going to be a learning curve. For some people, using a cup just “clicks”. Others may need a couple/few months before things fit and feel just right.
The link I shared above has a lot of great info to start you off. You may also find these videos helpful:
How to Choose a Menstrual Cup How to Insert & Remove a Menstrual Cup + Tips You can see the cups that I mentioned and compare them here
If you want or need additional info about these cups or any other cup/s that catch your eye, I’d be happy to elaborate. Until then, Good Luck <3
The MoonCup body is pretty short to begin with. You might want to look at some cups that are a longer “V”-shape if the cup travelled up out of reach for you. Maybe one without such a prominent rim, as well.
Check out this page for some things to consider when hunting for a menstrual cup: https://menstrualcupreviews.net/how-to-choose-a-menstrual-cup/
Hi Brandy! Thank you for your service <3<3 Have you ever thought about trying a menstrual cup? They collect the menstrual flow instead of absorbing it like a tampon. While there's always still a chance of TSS, the risk is lessened since it doesn't interfere with your body's natural process.
I know others in the military that use them. If you're able to access a bathroom to empty and rinse it out at approx the 12-hour mark. One person told me that when they were deployed, they squatted in private and used water from their canteen to rinse it off and reinsert. I'm a little worried about infections from a dirty hand doing that, so clean water to wash your hand/s first would be ideal. If this doesn't sound like something you'd be interested in since it's something you still have to insert, period undies might be a great option. I haven't tried all of the ones listed here, but I have tried a couple of them as well as some that aren't listed.
Something that I would point out is that all of the "real" period undies (I specify "real" because some of them will absorb but not contain) have some type of water-proof layer in them. The water-proof fabric normally isn't very stretchy, so it may not move with your body as well as you would like. If you're squatting, standing, bending over, crouching, crawling, running....you may find that you'll need to keep pulling them up or readjusting them. Again, I have only tried a few and I've found that this happens with some more than others.
The ones with the absorbent and water-proof layer that don't cover the full backside tend to stay put better, but then you lose the capacity and coverage.
Also, if you have a very heavy period, once the absorbent layer/s are full, compression might make them overflow and ooze out the leg or butt areas.
Maybe doubling a cup with a period undie would hold up for the long hours. There are so many of the period undies coming out. I would suggest picking up a couple of "brands" that are inexpensive to give them a try when you have free time. I would also suggest trying one that's a size larger than you would normally wear to give that extra room/stretch of the water-proof layer.
Good Luck and keep safe <3
I know that you left this comment a long time ago, but I thought the same thing about the Harebrained undies and bought a couple of pairs. “Period Panties” was misleading. They’re only “period themed”. 🙁 They’re cute and fun, but not what I was looking for.
My hubby and I didn’t care for SoftCup/Flex Cups. The ring is pretty dang firm. If we were a little rough, sometimes he would feel the ring and sometimes I would feel the pressure of the ring near my bladder. He also said it felt like a plastic bag. I picked up Intimina’s new Ziggy Cup, which is pretty much the same design but softer and reusable. Inserting and wearing it is much more comfortable for me, but we haven’t tried it while having sex yet. The one thing about the Ziggy Cup to be aware of is that since it’s silicone, you have to use a water based lube (if needed) and NOT a silicone based one.
There’s no age minimum to use menstrual cups. If the tween/teen is comfortable with trying, then there’s no reason they shouldn’t.
It’s a great option if they are willing. Since most cups can hold more than an “average” sized tampon, it doesn’t need to be changed out as often. I know that it would have been SO helpful while I was in school. I was in the nurses’ office many times waiting for an extra change of clothes to be dropped off, or staying home because my period was so heavy the first couple of days.
Anyhow, you might want to start with this info and video before you/they search for a cup:
How to Choose a Menstrual Cup Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uONPxEIQ_yo
If your teen isn’t comfortable locating their cervix, I would probably just start with a size small cup and see how that “fits”.
Is your teen physically active? (firmer cup) Do they have a sensitive bladder? Do they feel like they need to urinate often, have a slow urine stream, or feel like they don’t empty their bladder all the way? (softer cup)
I purchased a couple of cups for my two nieces (9 and 12 at the time). The 9-year-old (11 now) is on stage almost every day for several hours. She’s not yet gotten her period but has been set on using a cup when she does. The 12-year old (now 14) was interested in the cups but is not comfortable with the insertion process. She has been using cloth pads since she was 10.
If your teen is not interested in a cup, they might be comfortable with cloth pads 🙂
If they would like to try a cup, here’s a couple that would be good for first time users: EvaCup (Anigan Company) size small Venus Cup size small Super Jennie size small Casco Cup Mini Lena Cup size small
However, there are many, many other cups that on the market to choose from. You can see some of them here: Cup Comparison
If you have additional questions about these cups or any other cups, I’d be happy to give you more info. Until then, good luck! <3
The MoonCup isn’t a very long cup. It sounds like you have a low cervix and the cup is too long for you. Have you already trimmed the stem? If so, you might want to consider a cup that’s even shorter. If not, you might want to start there first.
Here’s some info about trimming the stem just in case: https://menstrualcupreviews.net/how-to-use-a-menstrual-cup/#Trim_Your_Cup_Stem
Otherwise, if you’d rather try another cup, can you tell me if you like the firmness of the rim of the MoonCup and if it has a large enough capacity for you?
Here’s a slide of a bunch of different cups on the market. http://bit.ly/2s4U67W
You can compare the MoonCup to some other cups and see if there’s any that interest you. I would be happy an answer any questions that you may have about any cup/s that look like a good size/shape for you.
Awww what an awesome friend to share the news of Menstrual Cups!! I’m sorry that she didn’t have a good first experience 🙁 It happens often. The Diva Cup is on the longer side, at least for the small. It’s one of the few cups that keep the same length for both sizes, but narrows in diameter. If your friend has a medium to low to a very low cervix, I can see how the Diva Cup wouldn’t feel comfortable.
Knowing the approximate height of your cervix can help narrow some cups down. There are some other factors that can help narrow the selection down even more. Check out this info and/or watch these two videos…or send them to your friend. They might shed some light on why the Diva Cup didn’t work for her and start her off with some info that will help her narrow down the hunt 🙂
How to Locate & Measure your Cervix
If you can locate and get an approx measurement of how low or high your cervix is, it would help so that I don’t suggest a cup that’s too short or too long for you. The MoonCup is on the shorter side and if that was comfortable, then we have somewhere to start. If you had some troubles reaching it or think that a longer cup might be easier for you, then I could add some other, longer cups to my suggestions.
The MoonCup rim is on a firmer side. Do you want to stick with this firmness or would you rather try something a little softer (say, if you have a sensitive bladder)?
Here’s some info about locating your cervix and also some other factors you can think about when trying to narrow down a cup:
I can’t rotate my cup either. At least not how the instructions explain! I have never been able to pinch the base to spin it.
What I found that works for me is to insert one finger, press it against the body of the cup to cave it in just a bit and then swipe my finger to one side and then the other. At first, I was just checking if my cervix was hanging on the outside and that my cup was completely open, but I noticed that it also made my cup spin.
Maybe it’ll work for you too 🙂 Good Luck!
Do you make it a habit to double check the position of your cervix after you’ve inserted the cup? Sometimes a cup can push the cervix to the side, or the cup can pass the cervix and be inserted on the side of it into the vaginal fornix.
After you insert your cup, squat and bear down with your muscles to feel around the rim or as high up on the cup as you can. If you feel any indentions, it could mean that your cup isn’t open completely. Wiggle it down and allow your cervix to drop in.
There’s a photo on this link that shows what I’m talking about. There’s also a video with some tips that might be helpful 🙂
You also might not be actually leaking. If you’re experiencing some spotting, it could be from residual blood that’s coating your vaginal walls even after you insert your cup.
If this is what’s happening, squat and bear down with your muscles and use a wet cloth to wipe the stem and/or grip rings of any excess blood.
This link might list some other things that you can check/try.
Hi Jennifer! I would have to agree with you that the Diva Cup is too long for your low cervix. Even the small Diva Cup is the same length, so that wouldn’t have done you any good either. Lunette is another great cup, but the small did not have the capacity I needed to carry me throughout the day, so I understand your issue there, too. If your cervix is low and dropping into the already small cup, it could be compromising the capacity. I would suggest a bell-shaped cup 1.) because they’re normally shorter than “V” shaped cups, 2.) the rounded body might give you back some of the capacity that you lose shortening a “V” shaped cup.
Some bell-shaped cups have a flared rim and others have a regular rim. Flared rims tend to ride up and sit higher than regular rims.
I picked four cups that might work better for you. They are all bell-shaped and shorter than the Diva Cup. This list is softest to firmest:
LaliCup – (Medium) Soft body which has a unique channel pattern that allows the cup to fold up narrower but also helps it to open. This cup has a regular rim and tapers to a point near the stem, but still has a rounded body for extra capacity. The rim is about the same firmness as the Diva Cup.
Ruby Cup – (Medium) This cup is about the same height as the LaliCup but doesn’t come to a point near the stem. This cup also has a regular style rim. The body and rim are similar to the Diva Cup.
Lena “Original” – I would probably suggest the large only for the capacity, but the size choice is up to you. The Lena Cup stands the height of the second grip ring of the Diva Cup (the 2nd grip ring down starting right under the stem). However, this cup is bell-shaped and has a flared rim which will likely make it ride up and sit higher in the vaginal fornix. The body on the Lena is a firm, but the rim is soft. This cup is slightly shorter than the LaliCup.
AmyCup “Crystal” – (Medium) This cup is about the same height as the Ruby Cup medium. It’s the firmest bell-shaped cup that I know of. The flatter base keeps anything from poking outside of your body. This cup has a flared rim.
You can see them all here: http://bit.ly/2s4U67W
A majority of the people that I’ve spoken to that are very active, tell me that firmer cups hold up better for them. = Lena “Original” or the AmyCup “Crystal”
However, if you have a sensitive bladder, you might prefer a cup that is more of a medium firmness. = LaliCup or Ruby Cup
I hope that gives you some ideas 🙂 If you have any additional questions about these cups or any other, I’d be happy to elaborate…if I know!
I don’t own a Fleurity, but I know which one you’re talking about. It looks as though it’s on the longer side. Your cervix may actually be holding the cup rim from opening if it is medium/low. You might want to check out the Korui Cup or Lumma Easy Cups. They’re also Brasilian cups. The Korui Cup is a shorter bell-shaped cup. The bell shape has a rounded base that might be more comfortable for a medium/low cervix. It has a regular rim and secondary rim that helps it open up. It’s medium firmness. The Lumma Cup comes in ten different versions! They have two that are “Low Cervix” but the capacity is low on these. There are four “Medium Cervix” cups. Two of them are “V” shaped and two of them are more bell-shaped. The bell-shaped ones are for a heavier flow. You can see them all here: Cup Comparison
I personally like the shape of the Korui over the Lumma, but the Lumma Cups have a cool finger placement at the base of the cups to make it easier to pinch and hold. I would consider the Lumma cups on the firmer side.
Good Luck! 😀
I pulled five cups that I had in mind for the “stats” that you shared with me. My selection might change if you have a sensitive bladder though. These are in the order of softest body to firmest body:
FemmyCycle – Regular or Low Cervix version depending on how low your cervix is. This is a “round” type of cup with a ring stem and “no spill” funnel. According to the company, this type of cup doesn’t need to sit high or around your cervix and does not need to be completely expanded to collect your flow. It has no air holes which may create a strong suction.
Lena Cup “Original” – This would be the longest cup of the bunch but is bell-shaped and has a flared rim. A bell-shaped cup tends to ride up and sit higher. The rounded base hopefully keeps the cup from poking your labia. The body of the Lena Cup is firm, while the flared rim is on the softer side.
Merula Cup – A “round” shaped cup like the FemmeCycle, but even shorter and has 38ml capacity which would be considered high capacity cup. This cup features a unique “ladder” stem which consists of three rings. You can trim a ring off at a time until the cup sits comfortably. This cup does not have any air holes and may create a strong suction. There is a specific fold (punch down) that is suggested for this cup that may help it open easier. If you’re interested in this cup and you live in the USA, you can find it on the femininewear.co.uk site. (Use code: RedHerringTV for 10% off of your total purchase)
AmyCup – This cup has a very firm body with a slightly softer rim. It is bell-shaped with a flared rim and a wider base than the Lena Cup. This cup is also shorter than the Lena Cup and might do well for a very low cervix. Again this cup is available on the femininewear.co.uk site.
Formoonsa – Similar to the FemmyCycle, the Formoonsa has a ring stem and a no-spill funnel. However, the large size Formoonsa is shorter than the “regular” version FemmyCycle. If you’re interested in this cup you can find it on the Formoonsa.com site or MenstrualCup.co site. If you shop with MenstrualCup.co, you can use the code: RedHerringTV for 10% off of your total purchase.
If you’d like to see all of these cups, you can view them here: Cup Comparison
If you’d like more info on any of these cups or had other cups in mind and need more info on them, feel free to reply 🙂 Until then, happy hunting!
I would personally choose the larger size only for the capacity of it. Since you’ll be active and out and about, you won’t have to worry about ducking in the bushes as often if you’re on a trail.
However, if you have never had any type of vaginal penetration (penis, toy, fingers…etc.) then you might want to consider the small for the narrow diameter.
I would start off with the “soft” version (not the Rainbow version) since it’s more of a medium firmness compared to other cups on the market. The “classic” is a very firm cup and I’m worried that it could cause you some pressure. It would suck if it caused you some cramping or extra cramping while you were far away from home.
If you’re set on one of the sizes based on what I said above, go ahead and get the soft and classic versions. If you’re getting the small & large set, then go for the “soft” version.
Sorry that that’s not ever helpful, but I hope that it narrows down your choices a bit more. <3
Since you don’t have any cramping issues, I would probably recommend the Yuuki “Soft” or “Classic” version.
The soft is a medium-ish firmness and still opens easily for most people. The classic is one of the firmest cups on the market. It can be too much for some people, but a lot of people that are very physically active like to use it.
With an “average” cervix, you could probably use either size – small or large. You can determine that according to your flow. The small might be sufficient, but the large may give you more time between emptying sessions (for up to 12 hours).
The Yuuki Cup in these two versions (soft and classic) are fairly inexpensive.
Single: approx – €17.80 Two Pack: approx – €27.80
On both of these sites, you can use code: RedHerringTV for a 10% discount off of your total order. You can also check Amazon UK site for Yuuki. To ensure it is actually a Yuuki Cup, the seller will also be named, “Yuuki”.
If you see any other cup that sparks your insertest while searching, I’d be happy to give you my thoughts on them according to your situation.
Are you “leaking” or spotting? If you’re just spotting, it could be from excess blood. This is the blood that’s coating the walls of your vagina even after you insert your cup. This blood pools down and ends up on your undies. Many people think that they’re leaking or spotting out of their cup when this happens. See if this doesn’t clear it up for you: After you insert your cup, squat down and bear down with your muscles. Wipe the grip rings and the stem (if it’s intact) with a wet wipe or cloth. Doing this will get rid of some of the excess blood and hopefully eliminate any “leaking” that you’re experiencing.
You are correct, the cup can sit below the cervix OR up and around it. I personally feel more comfortable when it’s sitting up and around it, but to each their own….whatever feels more comfortable to YOU.
This might have some answers for you: https://menstrualcupreviews.net/how-to-choose-a-menstrual-cup/#Troubleshooting
as well as this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o2YtfxUMeV4
Good Luck and I hope you can get your cup to work for you! If there’s more that I might be able to help with, don’t hesitate to ask!
Hi There! A tampon can actually rest partially in the vaginal fornix next to and beyond the cervix. A menstrual cup rests right below or up and around the cervix. I would hate to suggest a cup that is too long if your cervix drops low during your period, or too short if your cervix is very high. So, I’m going to suggest a couple of cups that are more in the “average” height but are still a higher capacity.
Venus Cup – The large Venus Cup has one of the highest capacities on the market at 47ml to the top of the rim. This cup is of ‘average’ length compared to other large sized cups out there but has a decent stem. It’s of medium firmness.
Merula XL – This is the larger size of the two sizes that they have to offer. This cup has no airholes and may create a slightly strong seal than others. This cup is kind of bulky but it is on the shorter side and holds 50ml to the top of the rim. This is the highest capacity cup on the market.
Yuuki – The large Yuuki holds approx 38ml of fluid. It’s available in three different firmness versions for you to choose from. “Rainbow” is the softest, “Soft” is actually their medium, and “Classic” is one of the firmest cups on the market. A lot of people who are very physically active like the “Soft” or “Classic”. This cup is a little longer than the rest listed here. If you think that your cervix is very high, this one might allow you to reach it easier for removal.
LaliCup – The large LaliCup holds approx 40ml of fluid. It’s available in three different sizes – small, medium, and large. The medium holds approx 36ml. Still a decent capacity if you rather something a little more narrow. The body of this cup has unique channels that allow the cup to fold up smaller and also helps it to pop open easier. This cup is slightly shorter than the Yuuki large being more bell shaped/rounded at the base.
Super Jennie – The large Super Jennie holds approx 42ml of fluid. It’s the softest cup out of the three listed. Some people have troubles getting this cup to open for the softness, however it’s not impossible. There are some tips on getting soft cups to open on YouTube if you choose this cup and find yourself in the same situation. The dark blue Super Jennie was confirmed by the company a couple of years back, to be slightly more firm than the rest of the colors. This cup is a bit shorter than the LaliCup as it is bell shaped and even more rounded at the base than the LaliCup. This cup has a short stem so if your cervix does stay high during your period, you might need to bear down to reach it.
You can compare all of the cup sizes to each other, here: Cup Comparison
Good Luck and let me know if I might be able to answer anything else 🙂
You could probably use any soft, size small cup in the “V” shaped cups, but I pulled a few of cups in the bell-shapes that I thought you might want to check out.
Sckoon – either small or large depending on your flow. The large size is shorter than most other “large” sized cups on the market. The bell-shape will give you a bit of the capacity back that you lose from the length of “V” shaped cups. The Sckoon has a flared rim which tends to ride up and sit higher than a regular rim (for those with a low cervix). The silicone is gummy feeling…as in softness, but the rim has some firmness to it to help it open.
The Lena “Sensitive” – again, small or large depending on your flow. Some people with a low cervix say that the large size is still a bit too long for them. This cup is opposite from the Sckoon in which the body feels more firm than the rim.
Super Jennie – The large cup is quite wide so it depends on how you feel this would work with your body. The small seems to be a great cup for someone with a low cervix and sensitive bladder. There have only been a small amount of people that say that the cup is too firm for them. The small also has a pretty decent capacity for a small sized cup.
Many people are able to use an IUD and Menstrual Cup together with success. Here are some things to know:
-Tell your doctor that you plan on using a Menstrual Cup. They can trim your “strings” of the IUD so they are less likely to get in the way. -Ask your doctor how long to wait after getting the IUD, before you can use a Menstrual Cup. -Get to know the length of your strings. Periodically, when you remove your cup check the string lengths. If they seem longer than normal, it could be a sign that the IUD has migrated or dislodged. -After inserting your cup, check that the strings are not on the outside. This will interfere with the cup creating a seal that may result in leaks. -Make sure to break the seal/suction of the cup before removing it. If you don’t, you may dislodge the IUD.
Here are some of the comments that cup companies have left about using an IUD with THEIR cup: https://menstrualcupreviews.net/menstrual-cups-and-internal-birth-control/
The smallest cups that I know of are:
Small MeLuna “Shorty” Lumma “Easy Cup” Low Cervix “CBC” Formoonsa Training Cup Mina Cup Mini
The softest of the bunch would be the Mina Cup Mini.
Lumma, Formoonsa and Mina all claim to use Medical Grade Silicone, whereas the MeLuna Cup is made with TPE. All of these should be healthy choices. (It’s up the individual to feel comfortable with the cup they have received. Some people are comfortable with purchasing and using a $1.00 menstrual cup and others feel more comfortable purchasing a cup from a reputable company.)
These cups are from all over the world, so they may not be easily obtainable depending on your location.
Please remember that smallest and softest may not be what works for you.
If a cup is too small/short, the user might have trouble reaching the cup to remove and empty it. A cup that is very soft, might give the user issues with opening the cup correctly.
Check out this video. It covers some things to think about when trying to narrow down your cup selection. Cup Comparison
Hi Alison! They were probably updating for a few weeks since they added their “clear” cups. It’s open now but looks like they’re still working on it. Not all pages are filled in.
It can be overwhelming when choosing a menstrual cup 🙁 Some people are able to take the only cup on the shelf normally available (Diva Cup) and be on their way. Others (most of us) aren’t that lucky and it takes a few tries before finding their “Goldilocks” cup.
First of all, congrats on making a decision to at least try a cup. Also, it’s refreshing to hear someone who knows what they want/don’t want in life (children). I commend you for that 🙂
Hopefully, I can help narrow some cup suggests for you based on a few things….
*Approx height of your cervix – low or high (if possible) allows me to determine if you need a shorter or bell shaped cup, or a longer “V” shaped cup.
Bladder Sensitivities – determines if I should suggest a softer cup
Physically Activities – determines if I should suggest a firmer cup (or something in the middle if you have bladder sensitivities as well)
Light or Heavy Flow – size and/or high capacity cup
If you can answer any or all of these, it would help me narrow a couple/few cups that might work for you.
Also, location (country) might change which cups are available or easier to obtain.
Until then, there are many people who are successful at using a menstrual cup even if they have an IUD in place.
Make sure to let your doctor know that you’re planning on using a menstrual cup. They can trim the IUD “strings” shorter so that they’re not in the way.
Familiarize yourself with the strings and take a mental note as to how long they feel. Periodically when you have your cup removed to empty it, check the strings. If they feel longer than normal, it’s a sign that your IUD may have migrated or dislodged. If that happens, you’ll probably want to double check with doctor so that it does migrate any more.
After you insert your cup, you’ll want to make sure that the strings are inside of the cup and not hanging on the outside. If it is hanging on the outside, you can gently rock the cup back and forth until it’s lower than the strings and they can move inside of the cup. Hopefully the strings are short enough that you won’t have to wiggle your cup down too much. If the strings are on the outside, you might not get a good seal and the cup may leak.
When you’re ready to empty your cup, make sure to break the seal/suction that the cup has created BEFORE gently tugging it down. If you pull when there’s a seal/suction, you may cause your IUD to dislodge.
How to choose a Menstrual Cup
I’m glad that you found something helpful 🙂
If your cup is chafing, especially since you’re inserting and removing several times trying to get it into position, you might want to try a water based lube to help ease your cup in and out. You can also look for a cup that has fewer “bumps” or lower profile grip rings or even try your MeLuna large inside out if you’re comfortable retrieving the cup without a stem.
Also since you think the problem is chafing, I would probably suggest the LaliCup over the Yuuki, now.
Both the MeLua and the Yuuki have more rigid grip rings. Both come up a little higher on the body of the cup.
The LaliCup grip rings stay closer to the stem and feel softer (as in squishy).
As you’re a cyclist, I would normally suggest a firmer cup but I’m hoping the LaliCup has the best of both worlds for your situation. It has a regular style rim with a secondary rim to help it open. The channels on the body make the cup feel soft, but allows the cup to fold up smaller AND helps it to open after it’s inserted. The channels will hopefully ease some of the chaffing as you can pinch it easier and make it collapse a bit (smaller) while removing.
If you can insert your cup the first (couple) of times with it being in the correct position, you’ll eliminating the need for target practice 🙁 and hopefully cut down on chafing. Sometimes it just takes that ONE cup that works 😀
I was kind of in the same boat as you at about the same age. However, my bleeding was “regularly” about 14 days or more. Sometimes up to six weeks or longer 🙁
My hubby and I were trying to conceive for a few years so I didn’t take anything to regulate it. It’s when we stopped “trying” did it happen. Although, it doesn’t happen this way for everyone.
Side note….my periods are still very irregular at (42 years old) and I’m back at the doctors (next week) to see if they have anything new to tell me.
Irregularities in your period are caused by changes in your hormone levels, especially estrogen. So if you have too much estrogen, it can be causing you to have heavier or longer periods.
Sometimes it’s just an imbalance and will correct itself in a couple to few months. These hormonal changes are common and rarely mean something more serious.
If you do have “Estrogen Dominance”, there are a few things you can do to help.
Take care of your liver – It breaks down estrogen among other things. Eat healthy bacteria – Probiotics foods Foods with fibre – reduces the build-up of free-floating estrogen. Foods like wheat/corn/rice bran, the skins of fruits and veggies, nuts, seeds, some types of beans and whole grain foods. Vitamins supplements – Zinc, magnesium, vitamin b6 and others help breakdown and elimination excess estrogen.
Stress and poor sleep can also contribute to “Estrogen Dominance”. High stress levels “steals” progesterone, leaving excess estrogen. And poor sleep habits causes a reduction in the hormone melatonin, which help protect against estrogen dominance.
Take care of yourself so that you can take care of your babies 🙂 Since we’re not doctors on this site, we can only speculate. The best thing to do is to visit your OB-GYN and check what they have to say. Be sure to tell them that you’re trying to get pregnant so that they know NOT to suggest hormonal birth control to regulate your period. They can also determine if you need supplements for anemia (iron deficiency) if you have one.
Are you counting days that you’re spotting? Some people count those days as part of their period and others don’t. Spotting is normal. Excessive spotting may not be. I know it’s frustrating being a leaky faucet 🙁
A “normal” period doesn’t have to be exactly 7 days. Many people have a different number of “normal” days and they’re normally not the exact amount of days as the last. It’s more of an approximate. So someone can have their “normal” period for 3-5 days and someone else can have their “normal” period for 7-10 days. These may or maybe include days they are spotting before or after.
Since we’re not doctors on this site, we can only speculate. The best thing to do is to visit your OB-GYN and check what they have to say. They may prescribe a hormonal birth control to help regulate your period. Not only can they determine the cause of your prolonged periods, they can also determine if you need supplements for anemia (iron deficiency) if you have one.
Good Luck and I hope that your period tapers down for you or that your doctor is able to help. <3
Hi Bre! Is that the free pink cup, two set cups? I know them by the name Puramour or Dreamlover. I believe they were the first with that design, but there have been a few other “brands” that also use this design.
You’re correct, they isn’t very much information floating around about this cup other than it’s a “cheapie”.
I personally didn’t care for this cup. I had troubles getting it to open since the rim of the cup is so soft. The body of the cup opened but the rim did not (for me). BUT…my daughter didn’t have any problems with it.
After I received some information from a couple of the largest world wide silicone companies (who supply silicone and don’t actually make cups), we stopped using these cups and those like it.
I won’t ever put down a cup or anyone who wants to try them, but know that there are risks with “cheapies”. If the cups works for you and you feel comfortable with using it, then that’s all that matters.
More info: What’s in our Menstrual Cups: http://bit.ly/2EBcFlS What does Medical Grade mean: http://bit.ly/2CYBHLc Obsidian’s article about “Cheapies”: https://menstrualcupreviews.net/how-to-choose-a-menstrual-cup/#Medical_Grade_Silicone_and_Cheapies
Hi Marisela! Actually, the best time to check the height of your cervix is when you’re on your period. According to fertility specialist, your cervix drops lower than “normal” at this time. This will give you the best idea of how short or long of a cup you should be looking into.
When you’re ovulating your cervix normally moves higher, sometimes out of reach. If you check during that time, you might get a cup that feels too long when your cervix drops again.
If your tampon felt like it was falling out, it could be from weak pelvic floor muscles. The PFM is like a hammock in which your tampon (and cup) will “sit” on. It helps keep them in place. Pregnancy and childbirth might have caused them to weaken for now.
A cup may sit differently and stay in place.
Since you’re active, I would suggest a cup that’s more firm. Most of the people that I’ve talked to that do workouts similar to yours have said that the only cups that stay put and open for them are very firm cups. Now this may be the case for you as well, as long as you don’t have an over sensitive bladder. If you do, you may want to try a medium firm cup first.
I’m a faucet, too 🙁 I know how that is. You’ll probably want to look into some higher capacity cups. If you do have a low or very low cervix, you’re a little more limited as to what a high capacity will be, but I’m sure we’ll be able to figure something out.
So…. Here’s a couple of videos to get you started. How to choose a Menstrual Cup
How to locate & measure your cervix
and you can check this one out so that you know what to expect or look for when you do try a cup: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o2YtfxUMeV4
Check your cervix next time you’re in the shower 🙂 and let me know if you think you have a sensitive bladder and I’ll see what kind of cups I can suggest.
Sorry that you’ve been having some trouble with your cups. Hopefully I can help narrow a few down that might work for you better.
First of all, the MeLuna medium classic was one of my first cups. It was way too small and soft for me. I had troubles getting it opened and into position. It was also too small of a capacity for my heavy flow that I had frequent empty sessions.
The large MeLuna was easier for me to open and position, but still gave me a bit of trouble. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a great cup…just not a great cup for me. It sounds like it wasn’t/isn’t for you either.
Since you have a higher cervix, I would try something with a little more length on it. That will make it a lot easier to retrieve without hunting around for it. I would suggest to go with a medium or firm cup for your cycling activities and since you haven’t experienced any sensitivities.
Can you describe the soreness that you’re having? Is it your urethra? Chafing? Tenderness from trying to work the cup open?
The leaking that you’re having…is it spotting or a lot of blood? Sometimes we have some residual blood coating our vaginal walls that end up pooling down and out onto our undies. If you’re having some spotting, it might be this. To help determine if it is, squat down after inserting your cup, bear down to bring the cup closer to the opening of your vaginal opening and wipe the stem and/or grip rings with a wet cloth. This will get rid of some of the excess blood and hopefully eliminate the “spotting”.
If you’re having more than just spotting, insert a finger after the cup is in position to make sure that your cervix has not been pushed to the side or sitting on the rim of the cup.
You might find that a firmer silicone opens or “pops” easier than the TPE material of the MeLuna. The two cups that came to mind are the Yuuki or LaliCup.
Both of these cups are longer than the large MeLuna. They also have a wider diameter. I’m hoping that the shape and size will help keep the cup from sliding down and also make it easy to retrieve. The large LaliCup has a slightly softer rim than the large MeLuna classic. However, this cup has a unique channel design on the body that allows it to fold up smaller than other cups as well as helping the body open after it is inserted. This is a high capacity cup, but it’s still safe to use if you have a light flow. They also offer a medium size. With the stem intact, it’s the same length as the large.
The large Yuuki “Soft” version is slightly more firm than the large MeLuna classic.
The Yuuki has three different firmness levels: -Rainbow (softest) -Soft (medium firmness) -Classic (one of the most firm cups on the market)
The Yuuki “Rainbow” is softer than the MeLuna, but I still have a much easier time getting the silicone to open.
You can compare these cups here: http://bit.ly/2qOSr0E
You also might find a tip or two that might be helpful in this video. It goes over the “residual blood” issue as well as pushing the cervix to the side. https://menstrualcupreviews.net/high-or-low-cervix/
Both of these cups are available in the UK 🙂 If you have any questions about these cups or anything else that I might be able to elaborate on, don’t hesitate to reply.
A menstrual cup might be the perfect thing for your daughter if she’s comfortable with inserting and removing it. If she’s used tampons prior, she’s half way there. There is a learning curve to using cups. Some people get the hang of it right away and others might need some practice.
Since a cup holds more than tampon, she should be able to use the cup for a longer period of time before needing to empty it, compared to the time before needing to change a tampon. Another bonus is that a cup won’t absorb the pool water!
I would suggest having her practice inserting and removing it before taking the plunge into a pool. A scuba instructor has said that she makes sure that her cup seals/suctions before going diving. Some people don’t feel this suction with all cups, but it’s a good measure to check just to be sure.
Have her watch this video…and pay attention to the tips given so that she’ll know that the cup is positioned correctly.
I live in the Northwest. We’re normally a lot more active with hiking, camping, fishing, Trikking (3 wheel scooters), all outdoorsy stuff during the summer, too…when it’s not pouring and freezing outside! Using a cup has been awesome for me!
Since a cup holds more than an “average” sized tampon, even on my heavy days (when a super OB tampon would last me an hour) I can use a cup for at least 4-6 hours before feeling the need to empty it.
My cervix is similar to yours where I normally have to insert my middle finger and push a bit to feel it. When I’m nearing my period it does drop a bit and is easier to reach. However, I do have days some times weeks that my cervix drops even more and some cups aren’t as comfortable as normal. I like to have at least a couple of different cups or sizes because of this.
Taking into account that you work out BUT may have some bladder sensitivities, I would go with a medium firm cup. Probably something that’s a “V” shape for the length for a higher cervix. You can also try a bell shaped cup but try to stick to ones that have a regular rim instead of a flared rim so the cup doesn’t ride up too high.
I personally think that the large size Super Jennie might be too soft. The Super Jennie (in the large sizes) are typically considered a softer cup and give some people problems opening. It’s not impossible, but you may need to finesse this cup a bit to figure out where and how to get it to open. The dark blue SJ was confirmed by the company to be slightly more firm than the rest of the colors, but that was a couple of years ago and I’m not sure if they’ve changed it since. If you’re set on getting the SJ, I would suggest getting the dark blue just for that slight firmness while working out.
I have never had any problems with a soft or firm cup while working out, but many who are very physically active have said that only firm cups hold up for them.
Anyhow, besides the SJ…I would suggest looking into:
Yuuki “Soft” version – large = This cup is a medium firmness compared to other cups on the market despite being labeled as “soft”. It’s a longer “V” shape cup that has a higher capacity than most “average” cups.
LaliCup – medium or large (depending on what capacity you prefer) = This cup is bell shaped with a regular rim. It’s shape is similar to the SJ but is a bit more narrow and also has a slightly firmer rim. It may be easier to open. It also has a unique channel design that helps the cup to fold up smaller and also helps it pop open. The large Lali is a high capacity cup, but the medium hold a decent amount as well.
Venus Cup – large = This cup is a medium firmness, overall. The body is on the softer side, but it has an invisible secondary rim and inner ring for added firmness to help aid in getting the cup to open without being overly firm. Although this cup has a rounded base, it is of average length compared to other large sized cups on the market. This cup holds 47ml to the top of the rim which is one of the highest capacity cups on the market.
You can see and compare all three of these cups here: Cup Comparison
Happy New Year! ..and happy new to cupping lol Are you able to reach the Diva Cup without the stem? If you are, you might be able to turn the cup inside out and see if that makes it narrow enough to feel a bit more comfortable. A lot of people end up using their cup this way because 1. they already have that cup, and 2. because it “fits” better.
If you’re not comfortable with that method, I might suggest a cup that’s a bit softer, shorter and/or more narrow than the Diva Cup. Maybe the size small in another brand. It might allow you more maneuverability (even if just usin one finger to nugde it down) while trying to retrieve it. Since your period is medium/light you don’t need a large capacity cup.
The small and large Diva Cups are the same length. Most other brands have a difference in length between the two sizes.
A few cups that come to mind are:
The Casco Cup either in small or mini – The small size is more narrow than the Diva Cup but the lenght is still there to be able to reach the base of the cup easily. If the Diva Cup felt too long, than this cup size might not work. The mini is shorter but has the same diameter as the small. This cup is slightly more soft than the Diva.
Venus Cup small – This size is shorter than the Diva Cup and has a round base which may be more comfortable. The body of this cup is narrow and has no marking for a comfortable insertion process. Overall, this cup is of medium firmness.
EvaCup small – This size is shorter than the Diva Cup but longer than the Casco mini. The diameter is more narrow than the Diva Cup, as well. It has a soft body that may be easier to collapse and nudge down with one finger. The high secondary rim will help the cup open even if the body is soft.
You can see all of these cups and compare measurements of each of them, here: Cup Comparison
If you see any other cups that interest you while comparing, let me know and I’ll give you some info about them 🙂
You might find a helpful tip in this video for inserting or removing your menstrual cup: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o2YtfxUMeV4
Please let me know how the inside out Lunette works out for you. I’ll keep my fingers crossed that it feels more comfy 😀 Also let me know if you have any questions about the EvaCup or LaliCup.
Have a safe weekend!
I’m sorry that the Diva Cup didn’t work out for you. It sounds like you had quite an adventure with it! No need to be embarassed about going to Planned Parenthood (YAY you have one near you!), they’re used to looking at vaginas! Mine actually carries the Lunette Cup 🙂 Anyhow, while you had the cup inserted did it collect your flow? I’m wondering if you missed your cervix and inserted the cup (still smashed) in the vaginal fornix. This area is around your cervix. It stretches and expands to accomedate anything that is inserted. If the cup did go into this area, it’s possible that it rode up high enough to make it difficult for you to reach. It could have also opened slightly and suctioned to the vagina wall.
Have you ever tried to locate your cervix? It’s normally lower during your period, so that would be the best time to check.
Here’s some other things you can think about when narrowing down a cup: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uONPxEIQ_yo
I would probably suggest looking into cups with larger air holes. The holes on the Diva Cup aren’t pin holes, but they are pretty small. Larger holes hopefully won’t suction as hard and will be easier to release if/when it does create a light suction.
Some cups that come to mind are: -Casco Cup (can also be found as Green Cup of Maine or Hesta Cup. All same design and FDA registered. Shop between companies for the best price) – short stem -EvaCup – short stem -Yuuki -Mia Cup – shortest cup in this group
I chose these based on the shape and length of the cup compared to the Diva. You can see all of these cups next to each other, here: Cup Comparison
The Yuuki is probably the least expensive in this group and you have firmness options to choose from if you prefer a soft (Rainbow version – closest to Diva Cup firmness), medium (Yuuki’s soft version) or firm (classic version).
The length of the Yuuki is ever so slightly longer than the Diva, but the stem might be long enough and it has much more prominent grip rings at the base of the cup for a sturdier hold.
Here’s some tips on Inserting & Removing your Menstrual Cup (if/when you’re ready to try again): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o2YtfxUMeV4
Good Luck & Happy New Year!
I think I answered you somewhere else? Maybe in a forum or on YouTube. However, I can’t find it. If you’re searching for another opinion other than mine, I won’t be offended 🙂 If you didn’t leave this comment somewhere else than someone has a very, very similar experience than you.
Anyhow, holding urine for an extended period of time can expose your body to potentially harmful bacteria, which can increase your chances of getting a urinary tract infection (UTI) or bladder infection. So if you couldn’t empty your bladder completely while using the cup, it may have contributed to your UTI.
Here’s a video that might help narrow down your hunt: How to choose a Menstrual Cup
First of all, if you don’t have any worries about removing your cup without a stem, you can try turning the cup inside out and seeing if that eases some of the pressure. If it does, you have a size to work off of it you don’t want to continue to use it like this. This is a “free” test since you already have that cup on hand.
If you’re ready to shop….
I wouldn’t recommend the Si-Bell cup…at least not yet. That is one of the softest cups in my collection and I would hate for you to get it and not be able to get it to open for you. I would go a couple steps softer and give that a try first, than to go directly to one of the softest cups on the market (besides cheapie types).
Since you have an “average” – medium height cervix, you can find quite a few cups that might work. As PACII suggests, the Lena Sensitive might be a good match for you. Although it’s a bell shaped cup with a flared rim (as these type tend to ride up and sit higher) it’s still slightly longer than some of the other bell shaped cups out there and shouldn’t give you troubles reaching it if it does ride up.
The OrganiCup is quite firm. In fact, I was very surprised when I received mine. I had always thought it was an extermely soft cup. I wouldn’t suggest this one for a sensitive bladder.
FleurCup might be okay. It’s very similar to the Lena and cheaper as well. However, it is a bit more ridged.
The Ruby Cup is about the same height as the Lena Cup, but the body is softer.
The two that I would like to add, are the EvaCup or the LaliCup.
The EvaCup has a soft body cup but has a high secondary rim that helps the cup to open easier. It is a “V” shaped cup, so if your cervix tends to drop very low during your period, this one (in large) might feel too long in the end.
The LaliCup is a bell shaped cup with a regular style rim. This one won’t ride up as far as the cup with a flared rim but gives you a higher capacity for your heavier days. This cup comes in three sizes. I think the medium would be sufficiant for your flow. It has unique channels that fold up easy and makes it feel soft, but these channels also help the cup open and stay open.
Overall, the three cups that I would choose from are – Lena Sensitive, EvaCup or LaliCup. You can see them all here: Cup Comparison
Since you’re in the UK, I would check shops like Femininewear.co.uk, Menstrualcup.co or Amazon UK. I know that some of the cups on Amazon are sold by the companies themselves, so check the seller names if you’re worries about “cheapie” copies.
Good Luck! Happy Hunting, Happy Shopping, and Happy New Year!
I would definitely check out some bell shaped cups and probably one that’s a little on the softer side. Since you have a medium to light flow, the cups that I would suggest are below (shortest to tallest):
**MeLuna standard small would be here** Ruby Cup small Fleur Cup small Lena Cup “Sensitive” small, LaliCup small **MeLuna standard medium would be here** Super Jennie small
All of the cups here are bell shaped. Bell shaped cups normally ride up and sit higher.
If I were to put these in order from softest to the firmest:
LaliCup – it has unique channels that allows this cup to fold up smaller and also help it pop open. It might not really be the softest cup here, but those channels give it the feeling that it is since it collapses easily to fold.
Fleur Cup Super Jennie – has the high capacity of the group. Lena Cup Sensitive Ruby Cup – has the smallest capacity but not by much.
You can see all of these cups here: Cup Comparison
I hope one of these will work for you. If you have any additional questions about them, let me know 😀 Happy Hunting!
The only cup that’s going to be comparable to the Diva Cup 2 in everything but capacity, it the Casco Cup. It is slightly softer, though. It’s reported to hold 40 ml to the rim, to Diva Cups 30 ml?
There are a few other cups that have a higher capacity but are either shaped differently, or are a different firmness.
Here are some of the cups that hold more. The capacities were measured to the rim:
LuvUrBody Med or L 43ml MeLuna XL 42ml (according to the site, not according to my own measurements) Super Jennie L 42ml LaliCup L 40ml Casco Cup/Green Cup of Maine/Hesta L 40ml XO Flo L 40ml AmyCup Crystal Med 38 ml Alicia Med 38ml Yuuki L 38ml Merula Cup 38ml no holes
If you need more info about any of these cups, I’d be happy to give details. Until then, Happy Holidays!!! 😀
There are many things that can make our menstrual flow fluctuate including eating habits, starting or stopping exercise, stress, weight loss or gain, and many others. If this is the first time that your period has lasted longer than normal, I wouldn’t be concerned. Your body might just be changing or going through a spell. Wait this one out and see if it doesn’t clear up during your next period. If it continues to last long for another period or two and you’re still worried, I would definitely seek medical attention to make sure everything is okay. They may suggest birth control pills to help regulate you. If you prefer not to take any hormones, they may be able to suggest some supplements to help with excessive bleeding. Good Luck!
A lot of people are “lucky” enough to only have their periods for two days. Even your 3-4 days are short compared to many other people.
When you start your very first period, it’s normally irregular for a couple to a few years. It’s different for everyone, but it’s because our bodies are still trying to balance out our hormones.
Since your period has been regular on two day spans, I don’t really see a concern. That may be your “normal”. If it starts to change drastically, that’s when I would seek medical attention.
If you want to regulate your period, you can ask your doctor or clinic if pills would be a good option for you. Good Luck!!
I’m sorry to hear that you’re having some issues with your period. I’ve had an irregular period since I started at 12/13 years old so I totally understand your frustration. I too, was prescribed pills to regulate my period, but that failed me by making my periods even worse than before.
Sadly, I can’t give you an answer as to why your periods have become very heavy along with clots. I know that after not bleeding a while, I will have the same and sometimes it’ll last a while (some times up to or more than six weeks!) with brown (old) blood.
Changes in your life, stress, starting or stopping exercise, eating habits, weight…and several other things may cause irregularities in your cycle including those pills. That’s something that you’ll want to seek medical advice about. They may need to change the pills or the dose to balance your hormones.
I’m not a doctor so I can’t diagnosis anything. I’d hate for you to ignore these issues and then find out there was something wrong.
If your doctor finds that there’s nothing to be worried about, you might want to ask them if Yarrow or Raspberry (tea or pill form) suplements or anything else may help with excessive bleeding. I still take a half a dose of Yarrow (pill form) when my periods are very heavy and last a couple or more weeks.
I’m sorry that I couldn’t help you with this. I wish you luck and good health!!
Just to clarify, do you have the EvaCup by the Anigan company in the USA or the Eva Cup from Italy?
If your cup feels too long even after cutting the stem off, you can try to turn it inside out and see if it feels more comfortable. Since you already cut the stem, I’m guessing you don’t have issues retrieving your cup without it. This should be no different. It will also narrow the cup just a bit and hopefully take some of the pressure off of sensitive areas that are causing cramping.
If this doesn’t help, you’ll probably want to look into another cup that’s a bit shorter.
You mentioned spotting. Are you spotting from overflow? Some people think they’re leaking when it’s actually residual blood. This blood lines your vaginal walls even after you insert your cup.
After you insert your cup, squat and bear down and then wipe the grip rings/base of the cup with a wet wipe or cloth to get rid of any excess blood. Hopefully this will clear up any spotting through the night. If not, you might want to try a cup with more capacity.
Since cups don’t absorb like tampons, you don’t have to match the cup capacity to your blood flow if you don’t want/need to. It’s perfectly safe to use a high capacity cup at any time even when you’re not bleeding.
Lastly, I always suggest having a couple of different cups on hand. Either different sizes of the same brand, or a completely different shape in another brand.
Our cervix move constantly, and according to fertility specialist, our cervix are in different positions during our cycle. During our period, it’s said that our cervix shifts to a low position. However, it doesn’t always seem to be the same from one month to the next.
Some times I can use a long cup and other months it seems to hang too close to the opening of my vagina. Having a couple of cups on hand allows you to switch to another that may be more comfortable.
Try turning the cup inside out and see how that goes, first…since you already have that cup. If it still feels too long, at least you have an idea of how much shorter you need to go.
You can check this comparison and see if there is another cup or two that look like it might work better for you. If you need any info about any of the cups, feel free to reply and I’ll be happy to elaborate on it/them.
Sadly, there’s no magical cup that’s going to work for everyone 🙁 So yes, it is kind of a trial and error thing. However, there are things that you can think about when you’re hunting for a cup.
Here’s a video that may help you –
How to choose a Menstrual Cup: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uONPxEIQ_yo
How to locate & measure your cervix: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KNoiRIMAhY0
Let me know if you need some suggestions based on your answers to the video. 🙂
First of all, I hope your cough goes away soon 🙁 Is it just a cold? It is that time of the year! (At least it is here!)
Anyhow, if you’re just sick then your cough should hopefully be gone by your next period. I would hate for you to have to buy a shorter cup only to have it arrive after your cough has subsided.
You can actually just try turning your cup inside out and see if it shortens it enough to be comfortable. Since you already cut the stems off, I’m guessing you’re a pro at retrieving the cup without it. This shouldn’t be any different.
Some people do find that the Lena still has quite a bit of length for a bell shaped cup with a flared rim, but turning it inside has made it possible for them to wear it.
Give that a try before running out and getting a new cup. Good Luck and I hope you feel better soon!
Thank you for including some helpful information! With a medium to low cervix, you’ll probably want to try a short cup or one that’s bell shaped (or bell shaped with a flared rim).
The Diva Cup is quite a long cup for a medium to low cervix. Even if you turn it inside out, it will probably still be too long. Sometimes that can “fix” the issue or at least give you an idea if you need to go a little or a lot shorter. Which size MeLuna did you have? The small and medium are pretty short. The size jumps quite a bit (IMO) between the medium and the large.
I would normally say that if your stream of urine is slow, that you have a sensitive bladder, but since the Diva Cup is too long, it might just be sitting in an awkward position. Again, which size MeLuna do you have and is your stream slow while using this cup as well?
Let me know about the MeLuna so that I can narrow down some cups that you might like to check in to.
I know it can be frustrating! I hope I can help you find something to work for you <3
Hi Judy! First of all, congrats on your first period 🙂 I know it doesn’t seem like a good thing, but it is a phase in almost every one’s life that has a uterus 😛 Anyhow, you are correct about your period being irregular. It’ll probably be pretty irregular for at least the next couple of years until your hormones balance out. I know it can be frustrating 🙁 On average, a period will last approx seven days. So you do have a couple more days to match the “average” time length. Some periods stop as suddenly as they start. There’s nothing that says our periods have to spot coming in or going out of your actual period. So hopefully it’ll stop abruptly for you, too. You might want to check with your doctor or at a free clinic (if you have one near) to see if they can suggest something to give you some comfort. I hate to suggest birth control to regulate your periods since you just started, but there might some some alternative things you can do or some supplements that you can take. Until then, heat pads or hot packs on your abdomen and lower back might give you some temporary relief. If you have neither handy, dampen a kitchen hand towel, place it in a zip lock and microwave it for 30 secs or more. The bag makes the heat last longer. Be care when you handle it. Depending on your microwave, it may be very hot!
Congrats again and big hugs <3
*Please remember that we're not here to replace medical advise or care.
I totally understand what you’re talking about! My periods used to be heavy with a lot of blood clots, too. Some of my periods lasted closer to two months long than 7 days long 🙁 If this is out of the ordinary for you, it could just be this one cycle. You could either wait to see if your period normalizes during the next cycle or check with your doctor or a clinic. I don’t want to scare you, but if it continues to be heavy with clotting, there might be an underlying issue that needs attention from a medical expert. For me personally, the doctor found nothing out of the ordinary this time (although issues run in my family) and didn’t suggest anything be done. One of my fellow bleeders suggested Yarrow or Raspberry Tea to slow some bleeding. I checked with my doctor if it was okay, and took a half a dose of suggested Yarrow (I opted for capsule form). My periods went down from about six weeks to 11 days. I only take them when I feel it’s needed. If a doctor doesn’t find anything out of the ordinary for you, ask about a supplement like Yarrow or Raspberry, as well. What ever route you take, I hope it works out for you. I know what you’re going through! Hugs! <3
Your period can change do to many factors, stress included. Normally, I would say not to be too worried about it unless it continues. However, since you have some medical history, I think this question would be best suited for your physician or OB-GYN. I’m sorry that I can’t give you a straight answer, as I’m not a doctor. Please get it checked out! Good Luck <3
Congrats on your new baby! 7 months is still new 😀 Anyhow, I’m sorry that you’re having some issues with your cup now. It does sound like your body has changed a bit…at least for now. Pregnancy and child birth really does play a big number on our bodies. You can try to turn your cup inside out and see if that helps. This will shorten the cup a bit and also make it a little more narrow. If can still feel it and have some discomfort, then I would definitely suggest trying out a shorter cup or a more bell shaped cup with or with out a flared rim.
Both sizes of the Diva Cup are the same length, but several other cups have different length between the two sizes.
You can choose size depending on how light or heavy your flow is.
Almost any other small cup will be short enough, but here are some cups that the medium or large size might be short enough while still giving you more capacity. These are all close in firmness of the Diva Cup.
Lena Sensitive LaliCup Fleur Juju LuvUr Body (small only) Ruby cup
You can also look here for a comparisons of these cups with the Diva Cup. Cup Comparison
If you have any additional questions about these cups, I’d be happy to elaborate on them.
PS…A cup can sit below or right around your cervix. Some people find that their cup rides up and nestles in the vaginal fornix (the space around the cervix) very high, which makes their cervix compromise some of the cups capacity.
PS…if you have any stress incontinence, a cup might apply some pressure to your urethra and help stop leaking. However, if you have a sensitive bladder, it might cause some discomfort or irritation.
Hi there! Sometimes it might be helpful to know if you have a retroverted or retroflexed uterus. This will cause your cervix to tilt as well.
You can also ask if you have a prolapse of any kind.
Your OB-GYN will be able to tell you while they’re in the area 😀
People who have these seem to favor a shorter or bell shaped Menstrual Cup, or a cup that’s on the firmer side to help it open easier against the prolapse.
Your age and having children really don’t matter in my book. My daughter and I can use just about any cup – shape, size, firmness etc. However there are some cups that meet more of our needs – easy open, comfortable, capacity.
Good Luck on your exam! I hope you studied 😛 rofl
Hi There! Since you’re only 13, it’s likely that it’s because your body is still trying to balance out your hormones. It may take up to two years for your menstrual cycle to become predictable and regular. So honestly, you can’t really compare yourself to the rest of the family…at least not yet. What’s “normal” for them, may not be “normal” for you. For now, your period may switch between a couple/few days of being on the lighter side or even just some spotting, or heavy and long. You might even see some dark brownish blood. ? I know, it sucks that you can’t track it better. If it continues, I would see a doctor or visit a clinic. They would be better for your situation. <3 Good Luck!!
Wow! First period at 17. Hmm…I’m not a doctor so I can’t say for sure, but normally when a young teen starts their period, it’s not predictable or “regular” until a couple or so years later because their hormones hadn’t balanced. However, you’ve had your period for a little over ten years now so that should have leveled out. I would definitely check with a doctor or clinic. There might be something that needs looking into, such as Endometriosis. I’m sorry that I can’t do anything for you. I know what it’s like to deal with those very long periods 🙁 Good Luck <3
Hi There! Since you’re only 12, it’s likely that it’s because your body is still trying to balance out your hormones. It may take up to two years for your menstrual cycle to become predictable and regular. For now, it may switch between a couple/few days of being on the lighter side or even just some spotting, or heavy and long. You might even see some dark brownish blood. 🙁 I know, it sucks that you can’t track it better. Tampons most likely didn’t cause your period to get heavier or long, but some do believe that the cleaning and bleaching chemicals used when making tampons may be harmful. There are organic tampons if you’re worried about this. You can also look into Menstrual Cups and/or reusable cloth pads. <3 Good Luck!!
I would suggest consulting with a gynecologist or even your primary care provider. They can assist you better. If things are that different from YOUR “normal”, then it could be a sign that something’s not right.
I had one year that I bled almost every single day and it was heavy enough to make me feel faint, dizzy and tired. I had large clots as well. They gave me some birth control to “reset” my cycle but that didn’t help. After that, they gave me a high dose of progesterone for two days and it finally stopped.
I can’t say that that’s what’s happening for you, but you never know what they’ll say or do. However, they’re better at assisting you with situations like these.
I wish you luck and good health!
First of all, if you just started your period within the last couple of years, it’s likely that it’s because your body is still trying to balance out your hormones. It may take up to two years for your menstrual cycle to become predictable and regular.
If you’re older, here are some things that can cause your period to be short or get even shorter:
Low weight, excessive exercising, eating disorders, and stress. If anything in your life has changed that you have anxieties over, it could be the reason. However since I’m not a doctor, I can’t tell you for sure. If you’re still experiencing short periods, you may want to visit your gynecologist to see if there might be anything to worry about. You may have low Estrogen levels which are making your periods shorter. Good Luck!
Hi There! Since you’re only 13, it’s likely that it’s because your body is still trying to balance out your hormones. It may take up to two years for your menstrual cycle to become predictable and regular. For now, it may be on the lighter side or even just some spotting. You might even see some dark brownish blood. <3 Hugs
Hi Florence, I know it’s been a while since you left this comment, but here are some things that can cause your period to be short or get even shorter:
Low weight, excessive exercising, eating disorders, and stress. If anything in your life has changed that you have anxieties over, it could be the reason. However since I’m not a doctor, I can’t tell you for sure. If you’re still experiencing short periods, you may want to visit your gynecologist to see if there might be anything to worry about. You may have low Estrogen levels which are making your periods shorter. Good Luck!
I’m sorry that you’re having troubles with you Ruby Cup 🙁 The Ruby Cup is a short cup to begin with and “bell-shaped” which I find makes a cup ride up and sit higher more often than not. This might be what’s going on for you, too. If it’s riding up and sitting higher, then your cervix is also sitting deeper in the cup compromising the capacity. I would normally suggest this cup to someone with a medium to low cervix. For you, I would suggest trying a cup that’s a bit longer or “V” shaped.
Take a look at these comparisons and see if there’s anything that interests you: Cup Comparison
If you’re looking for more time between bathroom breaks, you might also want to pay attention to the capacity of the cups while looking.
Let me know if you have any questions about any of the cups. 🙂
Are you leaking from overflow or just some spotting?
If you’re overflowing, you can either empty sooner than you have been (not really what I wanted to do myself) or find a cup with a higher capacity like the LaliCup, Super Jennie, LuvUr Body. In the large sizes, they all hold at least 40ml.
If you’re just spotting, you might be experiencing “residual slobber”. This is blood that’s coating your vaginal walls even after you insert your cup. To help eliminate spotting, bear down after you insert your cup and use a wet wipe or cloth to clean the grip rings and/or stem of any excess blood.
I would suggest double checking the position of your cup as well. If you’re leaking a lot and find your cup empty or partially filled, you might be either pushing your cervix to the side or your cervix is sitting on the rim.
This video might explain a bit better: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o2YtfxUMeV4
If you have a “dangling” cervix, it could also be dropping down into your cup compromising the capacity.
I hope something here helps! Let me know if you’re still having issues or if you want more info on the cups that I mentioned. Good Luck! <3
At least you partial have a good working cup for you lol Now to keep that sucker in place!
If you feel comfortable with reaching your cup without a stem, you can try turning your cup inside out to see if it “fits” better. If that works, you can continue to use it this way, or take note of the size when shopping for another cup.
Seal/Suction – Gently tug on the cup and see if there’s resistance. If there is, you should have a good seal. Some people don’t create a seal depending on their body and the cup, but it may help some people keep the cup in place better.
Consider a Softer Cup – Some find that a firm cup will slide out easier on them. A softer cup may stay in place better as it can collapse and move with the body more.
Pelvic Floor Muscle – If you know for a fact that you have weak a PFM, consider doing kegel exercises at least a couple times a days for a few minutes each session. PFM don’t actually “hug” your cup to keep it in place. It is more like a hammock of muscles that your cup sits on. If they’re not toned, your cup may slip beyond them. (These very often weaken during pregnancy)
A cup with a flared rim – These tend to ride up and sit higher for people. This might help you keep the cup in place.
I hope something here helps you figure it out or that you can find a cup that works better for you. Good Luck <3
It sounds like you might have a tight hymenal ring, hymenal tags, the hymen still intact/not stretched, and probably a case of Vaginismus.
I’m guessing that you are not a virgin since you had a pap smear, or you are a virgin and are 21 or over. I think most places only perform them now if you are one of the two.
If you have a tight hymenal ring or still have a hymen intact, I would suggest some touch therapy. Basically, using some water based lube and a series of gentle touching/stretching the areas and then relaxing. Do kegel exercises while you have a finger insert and feel it tightening…then relax and push down with those muscles.
I know this probably doesn’t sound pleasant, but a lot of people tense up when they’re already anticipating it to be painful or associate it with a bad experience; like the painful experience you had during your pap or even something entirely different. This will help you get used to the feeling and also allow you to control the muscles and relax.
If you have hymenal tags….these normally go away with time, but you can also ask a doctor to remove them.
I’m glad that you asked your gyno about it. If it continues, I would seek their advice again for a physical therapist that specializes in Vaginismus or see if removing the tags would be something to consider.
For now, try using some water based lube and see if it helps ease insertion of your finger after you get the cup in place. If it’s still hard to work with, you might want to try a cup that’s more narrow, softer or a cup with a flared rim.
A narrower cup may allow room for your finger, while a softer cup will allow the body to be compressed to the side so you can insert a finger. A cup with a flared rim might help move the cup higher (making more room for a finger) and may also slide around your cervix without extra assistance.
You also don’t need to use two fingers to spin/rotate the cup. You can insert one finger (hopefully easier), press the body of the cup and “swipe” to the side. I personally find this much easier to do than rotating the cup from the base.
IF you are able to reach the cup with out the stem and are confident removing the cup, you might want to try to turn the cup inside out. A slightly smaller cup may make all the difference.
I hope you can get either of these methods to work for you better. I’m sorry that you’re having problems with your cup ☹ I know it’s frustrating but I commend you for trying to work it out! Good Luck <3
PS…some of the tips in this video might be helpful: https://youtu.be/o2YtfxUMeV4?t=3m33s
First of all, welcome to the world of cupping! Congrats on taking the plunge to make the change or at least for trying it 🙂
I’m happy to hear that you were able to insert and remove the cup easily and wore it without any leaks! You’re already ahead of many people when they try a cup for the first time!
Okay, so the sliding down 🙁 Our cervix moves all the time, but according to fertility experts, during our period it normally drops to it’s lowest position. So it could be possible that your cervix would be considered a “low” cervix or at the least, medium/low.
Shorter or “bell” shaped cups might feel more comfortable to you. You can try either a bell shaped cup with or with out a flared rim. Normally bell shaped cups with a flare rim tend to ride up and sit higher in the vaginal fornix. It may feel more comfortable for people with a lower cervix, but since the cervix is nestled inside of the cup, you may also lose some capacity.
A bell shaped cup with a normal rim doesn’t tend to ride up as high, so depending on the original length of the cup and the individuals body, it might still feel too long.
Since you were able to use the Diva Cup inside out and not have any issues removing it, I’m guessing you’re comfortable with removing your cup without any assistance of grip rings or the stem. Which makes me believe that you can use either of the two styles….since you may have to bear down and reach a little further if a flared rim up migrates upward.
Here are the first cups that come to mind: Juju lg – This is a bell shaped cup with a regular rim. The large size is shorter than the Diva 2. It’s a little more firm than the Diva, but not by too much. LaliCup med – Bell shaped with a regular rim. This cup has unique channels on the body to fold up smaller for insertion. Because of the channels, this cup seems soft but those channels also help the cup open after it’s inserted. The medium size is shorter than the Diva 2. Lunette lg – This cup is “V” shaped, but the large is shorter than the Diva 2 by . It’s quite a bit more firm which makes it really easy to open. However, if you have a sensitive bladder it may apply extra pressure.
If you want to try a bell shaped cup with a flared rim, I would suggest the Lena large. They have two firmness options: “Sensitive” and “Original”. The sensitive version would be closer to the Diva firmness, but it’s totally up to you.
One more flared rim cup would be the Fleur Cup. You can find it pretty inexpensive on Amazon ($13.90/Prime at least in the USA).
You can see comparisons for all of these cups here: Cup Comparison
I wish you luck <3 Let me know if you have any questions about any of these cups 🙂
I’m sorry to hear that you didn’t have any luck with the Diva Cup a couple of years ago. Have you tried it again since? Most people don’t turn the cup like some of the companies suggest to do. I don’t even do it. I never really could! What I do is, run a finger around the body of the cup. If you can reach, try to run your finger nearer to the rim. This will allow you to feel if the cup is open and if your cervix is inside or right above the cup. Some people say that the Diva Cup is too soft for them and others find it too firm. If you don’t find the Diva Cup too firm, then you can try a cup that’s even more firm to be sure that it opens easier, like the Yuuki Cup.
I did do a video about Inserting & Removing a Menstrual Cup that you can listen to here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o2YtfxUMeV4
(I hope that your text to speech program allows you to use links. If not, you can search YouTube videos for “How to Insert & Remove your Menstrual Cup, Red Herring”
I do have other blind viewers. So far, they have told me that I (normally, not always!) give good details and explanations. And when I don’t, they have been able to ask me to elaborate, to tell them about a certain cup such as shape, grip rings, stem, and firmness, and even give comparison details between two cups.
I hope that the video helps and that you give your Diva Cup another try 🙂 Good Luck and let me know if there’s anything else that I might be able to answer for you!
I sorry to hear that you’re still having troubles ☹
Pelvic Floor Muscles are like a hammock. They are located approx. an inch in from the opening of your vagina, but don’t span the whole length of it. When you insert your cup it would normally sit above the PFM, so I don’t think this is causing the leakage.
Okay, rereading your original post…you say that you have a medium cervix. However, your cup is retreating about a ½ inch more. The cup could be sitting high into your vagina fornix making your cervix sit inside of the cup more than normal OR these cups are too soft for you and you’re some how collapsing or crushing them (which I find happens a lot for some people). I’m still unsure if you’re overflowing or not.
Have you ever try a firm cup? A firm cup may keep it from collapsing. It’s the only other thing I could suggest since you already tried a long, “V” Cup – Diva, and a high capacity, wide diameter cup – Super Jennie. We haven’t mentioned firmness, yet. However if you have a sensitive bladder, you won’t be able to go too firm.
I understand purchasing more cups is not something you want, but you can try the Yuuki Classic if you want to give it another go. It’s available on Amazon (USA) for $23/Prime. I also have some discount codes worldwide for other sites here: http://bit.ly/2oUzHvv
If cups are just not working for you but you still want to lessen your impact on the environment, you can check out cloth pads if it’s something that will fit into your life style.
There are some Menstrual Cup groups that allow you to resell – “destash” your gently used cups. You can at least recoup some funds to buy another cup or pass off any cups that didn’t work for you.
Again, I’m sorry that you haven’t been having an easy experience ☹
There are SO many cups on the market these days that you can choose from several different shapes, sizes, colors, and firmness. The FemmeCup has a very soft body, but a rigid rim. If you want to stay with that style of cup, you can check out the MoonCup, SheCup, VCup (India not V-Cup “cheapie”), or the NaturCup. However, the firmness of these cups aren’t as soft as the FemmeCup.
Do you know if you have a low or high cervix? Do you have a sensitive bladder? (I’m guessing it not too sensitive since the FemmeCup rim is on the firmer side)
You can check some size comparisons here: Cup Comparison and see if any of the cups catch your eye. If you have any questions about a cup or cups, I’d be happy to answer them 🙂
Hi Anna, I’m wondering when inserting the cup, you place it high and the it starts to migrated down? A more bell shaped cup with a regular style rim might feel more comfy and stay in place. A bell shaped cup tends to ride up and sit higher for most people. I have found (with speaking with others) that the regular style rim doesn’t move as high as the ones with a flared rim. Some cups to consider would be the LaliCup (medium or large) and the Ruby Cup (medium). In turn, a bell shaped cup with a flared rim might work just as well. I would probably go with one with a longer length since you have a medium to high cervix, such as: Lena and Fleur. The LaliCup large would have the most capacity in the cups that I’ve mentioned. The Ruby Cup would have the least.
Did you have any cups in mind already? Check out these cups and let me know if you have any questions about them or any other cup. 😀 Good Luck!
Hi Sarah! I’m sorry that you’re having an uncomfortable experience with your Juju cup 🙁 The Juju might be too long for you and getting pushed out when you bear down/tense up.
You can try turning the cup inside out and see if that “fits” better. For a lot of people, this does the trick. If not, you might have better luck with a cup that’s bell shaped with a flared rim, or a cup that’s shorter. Some cups that might work with your low cervix – Lena small or large, LaliCup medium, Fleur or A Zen Cup (same design) small or large, Super Jennie small or large, Ruby Cup medium, and Sckoon large.
The Lena original version would be the firmest of the bunch (in body). The softest would probably be the Super Jennie. If you decide on the Super Jennie, the small has a good capacity even for a small sized cup. It may be enough for your medium flow. The dark blue colored Super Jennie has been confirmed by the company to be the only color that’s slightly more firm than the rest. If you’re worried about getting a softer cup to open, get the dark blue.
I would suggest trying your cup inside out first. One to save you some money if it’s comfy and works. Two, you’ll have a better idea if you need to go shorter.
If you need me to elaborate on any of the cups I mentioned, don’t hesitate to ask 🙂
Good Luck! PS…did you know that Juju recently came out with a low cervix cup? It’s short, wide and they added beefier grips!
First of all, congrats on your new phase of life! Periods all differ for everyone, so there is no set amount of days when you’ll start or when you’ll end ? Sadly, it’s always going to be an approximate. Since this is only your first period, your body is still adjusting. Your hormones are all out of wack!
In the start, your period may last only a few days. It’ll probably very light and you may only have some spotting or reddish brown blood. Your “period” will probably only last anywhere from 2 to 7 days. However, you may spot longer as many do. I would suggest keeping track and tell your mom so she knows your concern.
It may take up to six year or more after you starts your first cycle for it to be “regular”. And when I say “regular” I mean “regular” for you.
Some people will have spotting at the beginning and ending of their period. It’s a sign to them that their period is coming or going. Other’s bleed heavy on the first day or a couple of days and then it will slow.
If you use a period tracker app like “CLUE” it’ll help you see how long your periods last and notify you when you’ll be starting. Period Tracker Apps can be VERY handy!
Please forgive some of the copied/pasted reply from the post before. It sounds like you both are due for some Luck and Congrats <3
First of all, congrats on your new phase of life! Periods all differ for everyone, so there is no set amount of days when you’ll start or when you’ll end 🙁 Sadly, it’s always going to be an approximate. Since this is only your second period, your body is still adjusting. Your hormones are all out of wack!
In the start, your period may last only a few days. It’ll probably very light and you may only have some spotting or reddish brown blood. Your “period” will probably only last anywhere from 2 to 7 days.
It may take up to six year or more after you starts your first cycle for it to be “regular”. And when I say “regular” I mean “regular” for you.
Some people will have spotting at the beginning and ending of their period. It’s a sign to them that their period is coming or going. Other’s bleed heavy on the first day or a couple of days and then it will slow.
If you use a period tracker app like “CLUE” it’ll help you see how long your periods last and notify you when you’ll be starting. Period Tracker Apps can be VERY handy!
Good Luck and Congrats again <3
It sounds like the Dutchess Cup large is still too long for you. It also sounds like you might have a medium to low cervix. You might want to look into a shorter cup or one that is bell shaped. Obviously, the shorter cup is shorter, while the bell shaped cups with a flared rim will ride up and sit a little higher enough if/when it’s approx the same length as a “V” shaped cup like the Dutchess.
Since you mentioned that you’re experiencing cramping, I would probably go with softer cups. Some cups that might interest you are the LaliCup, Lena Cup “Sensitive”, Sckoon Cup, and Super Jennie. If you have a lighter flow, I would go with the Lena Cup “Sensitive” or Sckoon Cup. If you have a heavier flow, the LaliCup or Super Jennie are good high capacity cups. If you have any questions about any or all of these cups, let me know and I’ll give you more info about it/them 🙂
I know this answer is late but if you’re still up for giving cups a try, you can trim the stem of the cup to make it shorter. Further more, if the Diva Cup still feels too long for you, you might want to look into a shorter cup or a cup that’s more bell shaped. Some cups you can look into are the Ruby Cup, LaliCup, Lena Cup, Sckoon Cup, and Super Jennie. If you have questions about any or all of these cups, let me know and I’ll give you more info about it/them.
Hi Melissa! I’m sorry that you’re having troubles with the Diva Cup 🙁 It just might not be the cup for you. I would suggest trying to locate your cervix if you can. It might give you some insight to which size or shape of cup you want.
How to Locate & Measure your Cervix: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KNoiRIMAhY0
Here’s a walk-through of “How to Insert & Remove your Menstrual Cup” with some tips: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o2YtfxUMeV4 This video also covers what might be happening when you “leak”.
How is the cup uncomfortable? Does it feel too long? Too firm? Does it press on your bladder making you feel like you need to urinate or when you do urinate do you feel like you can’t empty your bladder all the way?
Some extra info will be helpful in suggesting a few cups that might work for you better. 🙂
First of all, this site as well as any other site, should not be used to replace a physician. Please seek medical advice from a doctor if your period continues as it is.
A period that is shorter than normal for you, can mean that you didn’t produce enough estrogen.
If you’re younger and you’re still going through puberty, hormone levels, including estrogen, haven’t completely balanced out yet. This can cause shorter and/or irregular periods.
If you’re older and approaching menopause or even peri-menopause (40’s & 50’s), you may also experience this as the ovaries stop producing estrogen and progesterone.
In both scenarios, important hormones that are required to create the endometrial lining are not present or are off balanced.
Many other things can cause a period to become shorter such as: Birth Control & other medications Stress Disease or Health Problems Weight loss OR weight gain Starting OR stopping exercise routines etc. Even living or staying with other menstruating people can cause your period to change. It’s called the “McClintock Effect” where your period will sync with others.
There’s really no way to pin point one thing that may be causing this to happen to you with out more info. The only way for you to be certain that there isn’t an underlying condition that may need medical attention, is to seek a doctor or clinic.
I’m sorry that I couldn’t be more help 🙁 Good Luck and I hope all turn out well.
Perhaps a different shape all together? The LaliCup medium or large might be nice. It has a softer body with “channels” to help it fold up smaller, but also pop open easier. It is bell shaped, but has a regular rim that helps it not migrate so much like bell shaped cups with a flared rim. Capacity: medium – 36ml and large 40ml. Maybe the different shape with help keep the pressure off of your sensitive areas.
Flex and soft cups are quite different that the other style of “Menstrual Cups” on the market. However, both are safe to use while you have a light or heavy flow or no flow at all. A lot of people tend to use their cup when they’re expecting their period so they don’t get caught empty handed if it happens while they’re out and about.
These disk type cups get “tucked” behind your pubic bone when inserted. To remove them, you insert a finger and “hook” your finger around the rim to move it back over your pubic bone. I find that if I squat or even bear down in any way; sneeze, cough, laugh etc, the Flex/Soft Cup becomes “un-tucked” on it’s own 🙁 That’s never good, but that’s just me. Your body might do perfectly fine with it.
I know these are meant to be disposable, but I have heard many people wash them and reuse them. Some for the day and others for an entire period. I might suggest practicing inserting and remove prior to having your period just to get the hang of them. If you need to, use a water based lube to help ease the cup in. Some times for trying one too many times, you get dried out 🙁
Good luck!! <3
Cervix Height – unknown = average size cup ….Can you feel your cervix at all? You can make a mental note as to how far you were able to insert a finger and measure the length of your finger in mm’s. Physical Activities – gym = I suggest something a little more firm Bladder Sensitivity – Sensitive = …medium/firm to medium/soft (taking into account the gym) Flow – Heavy = Larger size or High Capacity
The cups that I would suggest looking into are: LaliCup Medium (bell shape with regular rim) EvaCup Large (V shape) Fleur Cup Large (bell shape with flared rim) Yuuki Rainbow or Soft Large (V shape) MeLuna Classic (Standard Size) Large or XLarge Ruby Cup Medium (bell shape)
Check those out and see if any interest you 🙂
Hi Poli! You can actually soak most of your cups in Hydrogen Peroxide overnight to get rid of stains. Rinsing with cold water, at least at first will help with setting in stains. After you rinse all the blood off with cold water, you can use hot water for a good wash. Everyone is different and a cup that works for one person, might not work for the next. It’s kind of trail and error. I’m happy to hear that you found something that works for you 😀 What cup was it?
LOL I long time ago, I probably would have cursed you for having a really light flow! My periods have died down since, but I still have very irregular, unpredictable, light and/or heavy periods that may or may not last for a couple to a few weeks! Now, I’m just happy to have menstrual cups in my life. They make it all SO much better; heavy or not! As for the small Blossom Cup, there are many that are smaller. A few that come to mind are (all small size): AmyCup “Crystal”, Casco Cup Mini, FemmeCup, Korui, Lady Cup, LaliCup, Lena, Lumma, Lunette, Ruby Cup, Sckoon Cup….and more! These aren’t even include the “cheapie” types. I think it boils down to, what shape as well. You can narrow down the selection using that. Some of these are bell shaped cups and may not be what you’re looking for.
Hi Sharon! Are you sure the seal breaking is what’s causing your leaks? When someone tells me they’re experiencing leaks/spotting and that their cup isn’t full, I wonder if it isn’t just “residual slobber”. Residual slobber is the blood that’s coating the walls of your vagina even after you insert your cup. This blood pools down and ends up on your undies. Many people think that they’re leaking or spotting out of their cup when this happens. See if this doesn’t clear it up for you: After you insert your cup, squat down and bear down with your muscles. Wipe the grip rings and the stem (if it’s intact) with a wet wipe or cloth. Doing this will get rid of some of the excess blood and hopefully eliminate any “leaking” that you’re experiencing. Good Luck!
It seems those who experience cramping with the Diva Cup, find that a slightly softer cup ease those cramps. Does the cup fit you okay other than the cramping? The length? The cup that eased those cramps for me was the EvaCup. It’s not even that much more soft but something just made it work with my body better. There’s a slimmer cup which again isn’t THAT much more soft, but I don’t experience any extra cramping with it either. It’s the Casco Cup (You can find this cup under the name of Green Cup of Maine, as well). I’m not sure where you’re located, but you might also check out the Soft MeLuna. If the length is not comfortable for you, you may be more comfortable with a bell shaped cup with a regular rim (as opposed to a flared rim). Something like the LaliCup, Bella Cup or Juju Cup.
As for the leaking, you may not actually be leaking. After you insert your cup, there is still residual blood coating the walls of your vagina. People refer to this as “residual slobber”. This blood will eventual pool down and out ending up on your undies. If this is what’s happening, you can squat down, bear down and wipe the stem and/or grip rings with a wet wipe or cloth. This will clean up any excess blood and hopefully eliminate any spotting/leaking. Tip #4: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5HeY8-c9zHA
Our cervix is not straight up. It goes more back toward our tailbone. Some notice that their cervix is more on one side than the other.
The Super Jennie small is nice cup. It’s softer but still opens pretty easy for most. Even the small has a good capacity so hopefully it’ll allow you a good length of time before needing to empty it. Good Luck with the SJ. I hope it works better for you!! <3
The questions I normally ask someone when they’re looking for a cup are:
-Cervix Height -Physical Activities -Bladder Sensitivity -Light or Heavy Flow
If you’re having troubles finding or reaching your cervix, I would start with an “average” sized cup or a “medium” sized cup. Sorry to say, but you won’t know which way on the scale to choose until you at least try one. If you get a cup that’s on the longer side it will likely feel uncomfortable if it’s sitting too near the opening of your vagina. However, it’ll still have enough length for you to reach it easily (as a new user). If you start off with a cup that’s too short for you, you might have troubles reaching it.
If you’re very active, you might rather have a firmer cup. A lot of people who do strenuous work outs find a firm cup stays open and in place better than a softer cup.
If you have a sensitive bladder, you might want to go with something softer or a cup without a flared rim. If you get a cup that’s too firm and you have a sensitive bladder, you might feel like you need to urinate more often or that you didn’t empty your bladder all the way when you do urinate.
If you have a light low, you can go with a size small. A heavy flow, then you’ll probably want something larger.
Some cups I would suggest looking into that are “middle of the road” are: Diva Cup, EvaCup, LaliCup, Casco Cup, Fleur, MeLuna Classic (large for heavy flow, medium for light flow), Lunette (on the shorter & firmer side), Yuuki (soft).
If you answer the other three questions that I normally ask, I might be able to narrow these cups down for you even further. Good Luck and don’t hesitate to ask more questions 🙂
Hi Andrea! Are you leaking as in over flowing your cup, spotting, or do you leak a good amount, remove your cup and find that the cup is only 1/2 full?
If you’re over flowing, the only things that you can really do is to empty your cup more often (which I know isn’t really something any of us want to HAVE to do), or to get a cup with a higher capacity.
If you’re spotting, you might be experiencing “residual slobber”. A lot of people think that they’re leaking when they experience this. What’s happening in this case is that there’s blood coating your vaginal walls even after you insert your cup. There can be quite a bit present. The blood slides down, pools and makes it’s way onto your undies. To help eliminate this or just to find out if this is the cause of your problems, squat down after you insert you cup, bear down, and wipe the stem (if it’s still intact) and the grip rings with a wet wipe or wet cloth. This will hopefully clean up any excess blood and keep it off of your undies while you go about your day.
If after you feel that it’s not residual slobber, pay attention to how much blood in it the cup when you remove it after leaking. Some people have a “dangly cervix” which compromises the capacity. If your cervix is sitting low inside of a cup, then it’s taking up the capacity 🙁 I would probably suggest a cup that has more capacity or a different shape.
If you’re able to wear the Diva Cup comfortably, I would guess that you have a medium/high cervix. The Diva Cup is longer than a lot of the “average” sized cups out there. I’m curious as to why the company would think that the size small would work for you better since it’s the same length but with a narrower diameter and smaller capacity.
Anyhow, try wiping the excess blood and see if that helps. If not, I would recommend a bell shaped cup with a regular rim like the LaliCup medium or large, or the Super Jennie large (which is a softer cup and doesn’t open as easy for everyone). The bell-shape will allow you more capacity even if your cervix drops into them, and the regular rim will help keep them from riding up as much as they bell shaped cups with a flared rim will.
The last thing that it may be is that you’re missing your cervix or pushing your cervix to the side. After inserting my cup, I’ve made it a habit to run my finger around the rim. One, to make sure that the cup is open all the way, and two, to make sure that my cervix is inside or above the cup. Your cup can actually make a good seal with the wall of your vagina even if your cervix isn’t in side of it 🙁
Good Luck and let me know if there’s anything I might be able to help you with. Anakalia (my name is Hawaiian for Andrea!) aka “Red Herring”
Sadly, menstrual cups are not a “one size fits all” thing. It’s a rare thing when someone buys one blindly and it working out perfectly for them. You already know that there’s a big difference between the SoftCups by Instead/Flex Cups and the other type of cups like the Lena Cup.
A lot of it depends on the height of your cervix. If a cup is too long for you, it may sit right inside of the vagina and can be felt anytime you move around, or actually protrude from your body.
Normally a bell-shaped cup fits a low cervix better. A bell-shaped cup with a flared rim tends to ride up and sit higher. However, you may find a bell-shaped cup with a “regular” wide rim allows your cervix to sit inside of the cup better and still allows you the extra capacity.
Sometimes people find that a cup with a wider rim also helps to keep the cup in place. Others just feel more comfortable removing their cup to use the bathroom when they have a bowel movement, but can usually find a cup that is comfortable enough to use while urinating.
It sounds like you have a very low cervix since the Lena (bell-shaped w/flared rim) in a size small still feels, as you said, too long. You can trim the stem a grip ring by grip ring until you’re comfortable reaching it and comfortable wearing it. You can also try to flip your cup inside out and try it that way. If your cup is that low, you shouldn’t have any problems reaching for it though. If for some reason you can’t reach your cup at first, do a series of bear downing while squatting. This should bring your cup down little by little until you can reach it. Don’t forget to break the seal by pinching the cup or collapsing the rim before pulling. With some sensitivities I don’t want you to experience extra pain. Double check to make sure, and try to do this while you have your period.
There are several cups that are shorter than the Lena and some are softer. Some cups that you can look into are: Sckoon – small than most small cups, “gummy” silicone which makes it feel softer Super Jennie – soft, wider rim, good capacity even for size small Ruby Cup – smaller than most small cups, soft MeLuna – Classic small or medium, or even the “Shorty” versions for a super low cervix
As for buying several cups, I wait for sales (almost every single holiday), I buy “destashed” cups and sanitize them to my liking, and/or I just save a bit here and there. I also have on going discount codes for certain sites that sell cups as well as other menstrual items.
FeminineWear.co.uk, MenstrualCup.co and/or SuperJennie.com = 10% off code: RedHerringTV
If you find that a cup doesn’t work for you, you can always resell them on one of the Menstrual Cup FB groups. There are people there that would be happy to find a deal and you recoup some of your funds back.
I hope that I covered all of your questions/concerns. Please let me know if there’s anything else I might be able to help with or elaborate on. 🙂
I can’t think of very many cups that do not have holes; Lily Cup Original, Silky Cup (newer version), FemmyCycle. There’s a cup that has one single pin hole but it’s a “cheapie” cup and likely made out of food grade silicone if you’re worried. Mine doesn’t have a name, but it is known by several names as well as, “Ivita”.
Having no holes in a cup may or may not produce other problems. The most common is having the cup seal tightly around your cervix making it hard to remove. Some people can use them perfectly fine, others find it painful or too much trouble to deal with.
If you had to cut the stem on a size small, you probably have a medium to low cervix. You might find Bell Shaped Cups to “fit” better and supply you with a bit more capacity. The base of the cup is rounded and even if your cervix sits inside, there’s still space to collect. A better fit, and a higher capacity might help with leaking.
I’m not sure what you mean by “upside down”. I’ve know people to use inversion tables, yoga/handstands and aerial silk acrobatics and have been leak free.
Is this leaking happening every night that you use it? You stated that during the day you have to empty it around four hours. If you’re sleeping for eight, then you’re probably just overflowing it. You’ll want to look into a higher capacity or bell shape.
Some cups you can look into would be Super Jennie small, Lena Cup small or medium, LaliCup medium, Ruby Cup medium, Fleur small, Sckoon large.
Although a lot of menstrual cups look the same, there are slight differences in each. Those little things can make a big difference to certain people.
You can “spin the wheel” and buy any menstrual cup and give it a try. It may or may not work and fit with your body. The most popular cup for first timers is the Diva Cup. Only because it’s the one we hear about the most, might see on the shelf at the store and maybe even saw commercials of it. However, the Diva Cup is a longer cup and may not fit someone with a medium to low cervix. It also might be a little too firm, putting pressure on a persons bladder or cause cramping. It could be a combination of the two or even more features on the cup, that would make a person not be able to use a particular cup.
There are a few questions I normally ask someone when they’re looking for a menstrual cup of “this” type (not SoftCup/Flex).
1. How high or low is your cervix? -Someone with a high cervix might be happier with a “V” shaped cup. Normally they’re a little longer making it easier to reach for insertion and removal. Some “V” shaped cups are: Diva, Eva, CupLee. -Someone with a low cervix might be happier with a “Bell” shaped cup. The bell shape allows a persons cervix to sit inside of the cup with out compromising all of the capacity. These cups can ride up and sit higher around your cervix so that it doesn’t sit too low or even sit outside of the vagina. Some “Bell” shaped cups are: Super Jennie, LaliCup, Si-Bell, Fleur, Lena. -Someone with a very high cervix might want the longest cups on the market: LilyCup “Original” or LuvUrBody
2. Is your menstrual flow light or heavy? -Small: light to medium flow -Large: medium to heavy flow Some cups come in more than two sizes such as the LaliCup, MeLuna, SilkyCup, LuvUrBody
3. Are you physically active? -If you do sports, yoga, cycling, Zumba…anything with a lot of movement or bending you might want a cup that’s more firm. This will help keep your cup from collapsing while doing these movements. Some firm cups are: Yuuki both soft & firm are more firm than most cups, Lunette, Lena, AmyCup “Crystal”.
4. Do you have a sensitive bladder/urethra? -If you do, then a softer cup might be best. It will eliminate the pressure that a firmer cup & rim can apply to the bladder & urethra. If a firm cup makes you feel like you have to urinate more often or that you can’t empty your bladder all the way when you do, then the cup is too firm for you. This can also cause discomfort and/or cramping. Some softer cups are: Si-Bell, Super Jennie, Sckoon, UniCup, CupLee.
So now the combinations… I know this seems like a lot of things to think about but once you can answer those, you can narrow down the selection of cups that might work best for you for your first try. Remember that even if a cup doesn’t work for you, you know what you want or don’t want in your next cup. There are Facebook groups that you can sell your gently used cups to others to recoup some of your funds back if you need to try another cup. If you are not oppsed to buying and trying a used menstrual cup for less cost, you can also check these the Facebook pages. You can boil or microwave the used cups to sanitize them, as well as soak them in peroxide/water.